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Thursday, February 16, 2012

Uko Amajyambere Yiyongera Niko Gutandukana kw'Abashakanye Kwiyongera

Uko isi igenda irushaho gutera imbere ngo ni na ko ingo nyinshi zirushaho gusenyuka, aho usanga ubutane (divorce) bugenda bufata ijanisha rinini ugereranije no mu myaka ishize ariko cyane cyane ngo umubare munini ukaba ugaragara muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika no mu bihugu by’Uburayi, aho usanga kimwe cya kabiri cy’abashakanye birangira basabye ubutane.

Nyuma y’aho baboneye ko iki kibazo gihangayikishije, ngo haba hari bumwe mu bushakashatsi bwakozwe mu rwego rwo kugira ngo harebwe niba nta mpamvu zaba zitera uku gutandukana kw’abashakanye nk’uko bigaragra ku rubuga rwa interineti http://www.thelaboroflove.com. Uru rubuga rukomeza ruvuga ko ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko hari impamvu rusange zituma abashakanye babana nyuma bakaba batandukana.

Zimwe muri izo mpamvu zikaba ari izi zikurikira:

_Impamvu ngo ishobora gutuma abashakanye batarambana cyangwa se batabana akaramata nk’uko baba barabisezeranye ngo ni ukuba umwe mu bashakanye yaba umugabo cyangwa se umugore ari indashoboka, hano ngo ashobora kuba ari umuntu udashobora guhindura imico imwe n’imwe itari myiza, cyane cyane iyo atazi gucira bugufi no kubaha uwo bashakanye.

- Indi mpamvu usanga ihuriweho n’umubare munini mu bagiye batandukana n’abo bashakanye ikaba ari ugucana inyuma. Ngo iyo abashakanye harimo umwe uca inyuma y’undi, ngo ni gake iki gikorwa gishobora kwihanganirwa ndetse n’uwaciwe inyuma akaba yakwemera gutanga imbabazi, bityo rero ngo bikaba intandaro yo gutanduka ku bashakanye.

- Indi mpamvu rero ishobora kuba yatuma umugabo n’umuugore badakomeza kwihanganira kubana ngo ni ijyanye n’ikibazo cy’abana, aha ngo ikibazo gishobora guturuka kuko batumvikana umubare w’abo bagomba kubyara, kuba batunumvikana uburyo bazabareramo cyangwa se n’igihe batagize amahirwe yo kubyara; ibi ngo bikaba biteza amakimbirane n’umwuka mubi mu rugo; bamwe bakaba batabasha kubyihanganira bagahitamo gutandukana.

-Amakimbirane y’imyumvire (personal beliefs) n’imyemerere y’umuntu ku giti cye ngo ishobora kuba intandaro yo kutumvikana no gutana kw’abashakanye mu gihe buri wese atsimbaraye ku bye ntihagire ucira undi bugufi.

-Impamvu yindi ishobora gutuma abashakanye batihanganira gukomeza kubana igihe cyose ngo ni ikibazo cy’imicungire y’umutngo cyane cyane uw’amafaranga, ibi ngo bikaba biba igihe abashakanye batemeranwaho neza uburyo bagomba gukoresha amafaranga cyangwa se ngo ugasanga hari igihe bahaye amafaranga umwanya munini kuruta guha agaciro umubano wabo.

Uru rubuga rukomeza ruvuga ko uko iterambere ryiyongera usanga ari na ko umubano mwiza hagati y’abashakanye ugenda ugabanuka aho kugira ngo na wo utere imbere. Impamvu nyamukuru rero ngo zaba zibitera zikaba ari izo twavuze haruguru ngo ariko zikaba Atari zo zonyine ngo kuko hari n’utundi tuntu usanga abashakanye batumvikanaho bityo kwihanganirana kwaba gukeya hakabaho ubutane.

Uko Amajyambere Yiyongera Niko Gutandukana kw'Abashakanye Kwiyongera

Ibyo Kuba Inganzwa Iwawe

Mu muryango nyarwanda ndetse no mu bindi bihugu aho sosiyete yemera ko umugabo aba umutware w’urugo bikunze gutangaza ndetse bikanababaza bamwe muri sosiyete iyo bigaragaye ko umugabo runaka adashobora kuyobora urugo rwe yita ku nyungu, icyubahiro, agaciro ndetse n’ishema ry’umuryango we ahubwo ugasanga yarahahamutse kubera igitsure, kutava ku izima no kwibunza kw’umufasha we uba ashaka ko yagendera ku bitekerezo, amategeko ndetse n’ibyifuzo bye.

Gusa hakaba n’abandi bagabo bumvikana n’abafasha babo ku buryo usanga bafatanya muri twose bityo ugasanga bamwe mu batazi ihame ry’uburinganire burangwa no gufatanya, gukundana, kubahana ndetse no guhana agaciro kw’abashakanye bita bene abo bagabo imbwa akenshi bakanavuga ko mwene abo bahawe inzaratsi cyangwa bati yagaburiwe umutsima wo mu ngutiya ndetse n’andi mazina atabahesha agaciro.

Nubwo bimenyerewe ko umugabo ari umutware w’umuryango, mu miryango imwe n’imwe siko bimeze. Hari aho usanga umugore yarazonze umugabo byitwa ko ngo amushyira ku murongo. Iyo uwo mugabo atagifite bwa bwigenge bwe bwo gufata icyemezo ndetse n’ubwisanzure mu mubano we n’uwo bashakanye, iyo ahora atotezwa cyangwa agashyirwa ku nkeke yo kwiyenzwa n’umufasha we wumva ko agomba kugendera mu kwaha kwe, icyo gihe uwo mugabo aba ari inganzwa ariwe mu cyongereza bita ‘henpecked’.

Akenshi usanga abagabo nk’aba b’inganzwa barakanzwe ndetse akenshi ugasanga hari byinshi mu iterambere ry’umuryango adashobora gushyira mu bikorwa kubera ubwoba bw’uwo yashyingiranywe na we. Aba bagabo kandi usanga batinya kugera aho abandi bari kubera ikimwaro ndetse ugasanga no mu buzima bwabo bwa munsi kwifatira icyemezo bitaborohera na gato. Akenshi iki kibazo cy’inganzwa gikunze kugaragara mu bagore b’intavugirwamo bumva ko bifatiye abo bashakanye.

Kuba inganzwa iyo bikomeje nta kabuza bisenya umuryango. Ni na bumwe mu buryo abagore bakorera ihohotera abagabo babo nubwo bihagararaho bagatinya kubivuga ahubwo bagahitamo kwahukana cyangwa gushakira amahoro mu nzoga cyangwa bamwe bagahitamo kwiyandarika.

Zimwe mu mpamvu rero zitera abagabo kugirwa inganzwa hari kuba umugabo acecetse, ananitonda kandi yitinya bikabije (timid personality). Ibi biha urwaho umugore akumva ko agomba kwifatira umugabo we kubera aba yizeye neza ko ntacyo ashobora kumutwara cyangwa se ngo amuvuguruze kubera za soni zivanze no kutiha icyizere no kwihagararaho. Aha abahanga mu bijyanye n’imibanire y’abantu bakaba bagira inama abagabo nk’abo kwiha agaciro ntibaniganwe ijambo.

Ikindi na none gishobora gutera kuba inganzwa ni ukwipfobya kwa bamwe mu bagabo (inferiority complex) barushwa umutungo, amashuri cyangwa icyubahiro muri sosiyete n’abagore babo. Kuba umugore yumva ko yihagije muri byose kandi ko sosiyete imubona nk’umuntu wifashije bituma atubaha umugabo we maze akamutesha umutwe, amusugura ndetse anamusuguza abandi ndetse ntanamuhe ubwisanzure bwo gutekereza ku byateza imbere umuryango we. Aha bifata igihe kirekire kugira ngo umugabo abashe kugira uburenganzira bwe ndetse akenshi bikaba bimwe mu bituma ubutane mu bashakanye burushaho kujya ku ntera yo hejuru.
Hari abagabo bashimishwa no guhunga inshingano zabo bakishimira gutwarwa n’abagore babo. Mwene abo usanga batagira ijambo mu byemezo bireba iterambere ry’urugo kubera kwanga kugira uruhare mu gushaka ibitunga urugo. Mwene aba usanga basuzugurwa n’abagore babo bavuga ko ntacyo bazi ndetse nta n’icyo bamariye urugo.

Nyamara urukundo, kubahana, koroherana ndetse no kumva ko hagati y’umugabo n’umugore ntawe uruta undi ahubwo ko bose bagomba gusenyera umugozi umwe baharanira iterambere ry’urugo nicyo cyakagombye kurandura uyu muco utari mwiza ugaragazwa na bamwe mu bagore. Bityo bizatuma imiryango itarangwa n’imyiryane ndetse binagabanye ibikorwa byo gucana inyuma , binatume kandi umubare w’abagabo bahukana ugabanuka.

Menya Kuganiriza Umwana Wawe

Iyo umuntu akiri muto, usanga akenshi yihatira kubaza ababyeyi be ku byo agenda abona ndetse akabagisha inama ku byo yifuza gukora, byazagirira akamaro ahazaza he heza.

Ibi ariko umuntu abikora agendeye ku bimubaho mu buzima bwe bwa buri mu munsi (byiza cyangwa bibi); kubera ko aba afitiye icyizere ababyeyi be. Gusa na none biterwa n’umuco cyangwa imibanire y’ababyeyi be kuko akenshi hari aho usanga umugabo aba atinyitse mu muryango, abana bagatinya kugira icyo bamubaza. Icyo gihe iyo umwana agize ikibazo nta wundi akibwira uretse mama we kuko aba yumva ko azamugerera byoroshye kuri papa we cyane nk’iyo hari ubufasha yari amukeneyeho.

Imyifatire nk’iyi rero ngo si myiza, kuko usanga iyo nta kiganiro cyabaye hagati y’abana n’ababyeyi babo, bishobora kuba byazagira ingaruka zitarinzi mu mikurire yabo. Kuvugana (la communication) hagati y’umubyeyi n’umwana, ni uburyo bwiza umwana ambiriramo umubyeyi we akamuri ku mutima. Ntabwo biba byoroshye na gato ku mubyeyi, ariko ni byiza gufata iyambere ukegera umwana, ukamubaza mu magambo yoroheje niba yagize umunsi mwiza (igihe avuye nko ku ishuri), cyangwa se niba nta kibazo yahuye nacyo ku ishuri.

Ibi bizamwereka ko nibura hari umwanya umuha mu buzima bwe nk’umubyeyi we. Hari igihe ashobora kukwihorera kubera ko atashye ananiwe, cyangwa ashonje, ariko burya iyo amaze kuruhuka amaze nko gufungura ni akanya keza ko kumubaza uko umunsi wamugendekeye. Aha ni byiza ko wamubwira ibyo cyera wakoraga bigatuma utsinda kuko byamwongerera umuhate (motivemotion) mu masomo cyangwa mu buzima yifuza kuzabamo mu gihe kiri imbere. Hari igihe ushobora kubaza umwana uko ku ishuri bimeze, akagusaba ko muhindura ikiganiro cyangwa ukabona ashaka kukunyuza mu yindi nzi icyo gihe uba ugomba kwitonda ndetse ukamukurikiranira hafi, kuko akenshi hari impamvu iba yamuteye kubiguhisha.

Zimwe mu mpamvu zatuma umwana ataganira n’umubyeyi we:

Mugihe umubyeyi abura umwanya kubera akazi: icyo gihe umwana ntabasha kubona umubyeyi we. Burya ngo abana ni abarimu bakuru, rero barareba kandi baratekereza. Ugomba kwitonda, kandi ukareba kure nk’umubyeyi, kuko n’ubwo uhihibikana ushaka ibyo kurya cyangwa se n’amafaranga y’ishuri ku mwana, ugomba no kumenya ko burya umwana akeneye indero y’umubyeyi wamuhaye ubuzima

Iyo ufite ingeso yo kubwira nabi umwana uje agusanga: Umwana igihe aje agusanga rimwe na rimwe arira, aba akeneye ko umuhoza. Ugomba kwirinda kurakazwa n’ikosa yakoze ahubwo ukihutira kumenya impamvu ya muteye ishavu. Kuko iyo weretse umwana ugusanga ko utamwitayeho, bishobora gutuma atazongera kumva akwisanzuyeho. Birashoboka ko umwe mubo mubana yaba yakurakaje, icyo gihe ugomba kwihangana ntuture umwana wawe uwo mujinya watewe n’undi muntu.

Agira icyo avuga ku buryo umubyeyi agomba kwita ku mwana we Tiffany Field, Umuyobozi mu ishuri rikuru rikora ubushakashatsi mu bijyanye no gukoranaho (le toucher), riri ahitwa Miami muri Leta Zunze ubumwe z’Amerika, ya gize ati: "Gukora ku mwana ni ikintu cy’ingenzi ku girango umenye niba amereweza, kuruta uko wamukoresha undi mwitozo".

Kumena ibanga ry’ibyo waganirijwe n’umwana: Igihe umwana akubwiye amabanga ye nk’umubyeyi, nyuma ukamuvamo ukabiganirira inshuti zawe ,menya ko umwana namenya ko uganiriza bagenzi bawe amabanga aba akubikije, ashobora kutazongera na rimwe kukugirira icyizere, kuko azumva ko wamuvuyemo. Gusa aramutse akubwiye ibintu ukumva bikurenze, wabiganira n’abandi kugira ngo bakugire inama ariko batamenye ko ibyo ubabaza byabaye ku mwana wawe cyangwa undi ubereye umwishingizi.

Igihe birebana n’ubuzima, ni byiza ko wakwegera abajyanama b’ubuzima cyangwa abaganga mu by’imikurire n’imihindagurikire y’umubiri w’umuntu, bakagufasha mu burere uha abana bawe. Kuganira n’umwana wawe si ibyo guhubukira ahubwo ni ibintu bisaba igihe n’umwanya uhagije.
Ni byiza ko ababyeyi bakwihatira kwegera abana babo, kuko bituma babagirira icyizere bityo bakabagira n’abajyana mu buzima bwabo.

Guhuza Igitsina Nyuma yo Kubyara

Mu buzima bw’abashakanye hajya haba ikibazo cyo kubaka urugo iyo umwana yavutse ugasanga bitaboroheye bitewe n’ibyo bari basanzwe bamenyereye kwikorera. Umuntu akaba ashobora kwibaza icyo yakora kugira ngo urugo rwe ntirusenywe n’izi mpinduka, nk’uko tubikesha urubuga rwa intenet: kidshealth, rutangaza ko abashakanye bombi babigiramo uruhare.

Kidshealth rutangaza ko nyuma y’uko umwana avutse, umugore akunze kuba afite ibibazo mu myanya ye myibarukiro. Icyo ngo si ikindi, ni uburyo aho umwana aba yaciye haba hasa n’ahakomeretse ; mbese akaba akeneye igihe cyo kumara kugira ngo agarukemo, bimusaba nibura ukwezi kumwe kugira ngo imyanya ye imenyere mbese hasubirane.

Hakenerwa kandi nk’ibyumweru 6 kugira ngo imisemburo ibe yatangira gukora neza. Ikindi, ngo iyo agitangira indi misemburo itangwa mu gihe umubyeyi yonsa ntituma agira ubushake buhagije bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ngo nk’iyo wongereyeho amajoro amara adasinziriye n’uburyo haje umwana hagati y’aba bantu baba babanye, ushobora kuvuga ko mu mezi 3 ya mbere umubyeyi yibarutse igikorwa cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina kiza ku mwanya utari hafi aho nk’uko bisanzwe.

Ni kenshi ababyeyi berekana ko uko bamerewe ku mubiri kurimo intege zabo nke ariho bashingiye kugira ngo badakora imibonano mpuzabitsina ariko mu by’ukuri umubyeyi aba ahanini urukundo aruharira umwana we kurusha umugabo ku buryo na we abona ko umwana aba asa n’uwasimbuye se ku kwitabwaho. Mu byumweru bya mbere bisa n’aho bisanzwe ariko si byiza gutegereza ko ibyo byose biba.

Muri icyo gihe rero, ngo ni akazi k’abo bombi: umugabo akwiye kongera urukundo no kwita ku mugore kandi n’umugore akagerageza kutumva ko ari umwana yakwitaho 100% gusa. Ngo ni byiza ko aba bombi bumva ko imibanire yabo itabangamira ivuka n’imibereho y’umwana wavutse, kubyara bitababuza gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bitewe n’uko ngo atari na byiza ko abana bagira ababyeyi badakora imibonano mpuzabitsina kuko bifasha imikurire yabo.

Ibyiza rero ni uko umugore n’umugabo bajya babiganiraho bakabishakira umuti kugira ngo bakomeze kubana neza.
Ni gute umubyeyi yamenyera umubiri we nyuma yo kwibaruka umwana? Bijya bibaho ko umubyeyi yiyumvamo ko umubiri we, cyane imyanya myibarukiro ye yahindutse nyuma yo kubyara, ariko biba bitandukanye n’uburyo byaba bimeze ku mubiri we nk’inkovu iba isanzwe kandi iba yoroshye, nta gihe imara itaruma ni nk’izindi nkovu nubwo utapfa kubikeka.

Urubuga rwa internet: kidshealth, rutangaza ko ari byiza ko umubyeyi yiyakira vuba kandi akirinda kuba umwanya munini yawuharira umwana gusa, ko bibaye byiza ahubwo bagerageza kongera urukundo bafitanye bitewe n’uko umwana aba akeneye urukundo rw’ababyeyi mu mikurire ye.
Ibi byatangajwe n’impuguke mu buzima bw’ imyororokere, Dr Ghislaine, ukorera i Paris mu Bufaransa.

Kujujubya cyangwa kogeraho umuntu uburimiro bimwangiriza ubuzima

Kujujubya umuntu cyangwa kumwogeraho uburimiro (Harassment) ni amagambo ashaririye y’urucantege, imyitwarire cyangwa ibikorwa umuntu akenshi ukunze kuba afite ububasha cyangwa ufite icyo arusha undi akoresha mu kwibasira, gutoteza no guhabura uwo asuzuguye. Ibyo bikorwa biba bigamije kumunnyega, kumuca intege, kumutesha agaciro, kumutera ubwoba, kumutoteza no gutuma ahabuka agata umurongo w’ibyo yakoraga ku bw’inyungu runaka ubikora aba agamije ariko byose bikangiza ubuzima bw’ubikorewe.

Uku kujujubya ni intwaro ikomeye y’igitugu n’iterabwoba ndetse ikaba n’intwaro yo gutesha umuntu agaciro n’icyubahiro mu muryango. Usanga uko kogeraho umuntu uburimiro cyangwa kumujujubya bimwangiza mu ntekerezo ndetse yemwe bikanamugiraho ingaruka ku buryo atabasha kugira ishema ry’uwo ari we no kugaragaza ubushobozi bw’icyo ashoboye. Iyo usesenguye neza usanga kogeraho umuntu uburimiro umujujubya ari ihohoterwa rishingiye ku mitekerereze rikorwa rigatesha agaciro ikiremwamuntu. Iyi ngeso yo kogeraho umuntu uburimiro ikunze kugaragazwa n’abakoresha bamwe badafata neza abo bayobora, abagabo n’abagore bamwe na bamwe basuzugurana mu ngo zabo, bamwe mu babyeyi gito n’abandi bantu biyumva ko hari isumbwe runaka bafite kurusha abandi.

Ibimenyetso biranga umuntu wajujubijwe

Bimwe mu bimenyetso byerekana umuntu ujujubywa nk’uko tubikesha urubuga harassment101.com, harimo kurwara igifu, kurwara umutwe udakira, kubura intege zo gukora imirimo runaka, kugira isesemi ya buri kanya, gushikagurika; kabone niyo haba nta kimukanze, kubura ipfa ryo kurya, kugira indwara y’ibitotsi no gutakaza ibiro. Kuri bamwe usanga baryagagura kubera kugira ubushake bwo kurya budasanzwe ari na byo bituma bagira umubyibuho ukabije.

Mu mitekerereze, usanga umuntu wogeweho uburimiro ajujubywa atoroherwa no gufata mu mutwe cyane kubera gutakaza ingufu zifasha ubwonko bwe kwibuka. Usanga kandi afite imyitwarire y’umushiha, aho aba yumva nta muntu runaka ashaka kuvugana na we ndetse yemwe banavugana akamubwiza inani na rimwe. Abandi bo usanga batangira kugira ibitekerezo bibaganisha ku kwiyahura cyangwa ugasanga bahora barira. Hari n’abandi ushobora gusanga bahora baryamiye amajanja kandi babijyanisha no kugira umushiha ukabije. Mu bindi bimenyetso bibaranga usanga barakazwa n’ubusa mbese ari ba bandi twita ibifura. Usanga kandi abatangiye kwibasirwa n’ingaruka z’iyi ndwara bagira indahiro cyangwa kwivumagura bidasanzwe ku kintu runaka kabone n’ubwo kaba ari akantu gato. Ikindi kimenyetso ni ukubura ubushake bwo gutera akabariro. Na none kandi bene aba bantu bajujubijwe usanga nta kintu gipfa kubashimisha. Uzasanga kenshi abibasiwe bahita batangira kwiyahuza ibiyobyabwenge kugira ngo babashe kwivana muri ako gahinda n’ubuzima bubi baba barimo.

Zimwe mu ngaruka ziterwa no kujujubya umuntu:

1. Umujinya

Iyo umuntu yibasiwe n’undi muntu runaka ahora amujujubya (harassing) bituma agira umujinya. Kenshi usanga nyir’ukubikorerwa aba yumva ko umujinya we ufite ishingiro cyane cyane ko aba yumva afatwa nabi akumva ndetse yanze n’aho hantu aba ari.

2. Kwiyanga

Uko umuntu agenda yogerwaho uburimiro bigera ubwo yumva ababaye birenze urugero noneho bigafata indi ntera yo kwiyanga. Akenshi usanga benshi bibaho batangira kwirenganya batekereza ko ari bo ba nyirabayazana. Ibi rero bituma umuntu atangira kutigirira icyizere ndetse akaba yanatangira kwicuza impamvu atagira icyo akora ngo yumvishe umujujubya ko ibyo amukakorera atari byo.

3. Kwisuzugura

Kujujubywa bituma umuntu yitesha agaciro ndetse akanisuzugura yumva ko nta cyo ashoboye. Kubera kumva ko asuzuguwe, nta gaciro afite, ko anasuzuguwe bijyana no kwitinya we ubwe, bituma ujujubywa inshuro nyinshi yisuzugura ndetse akenshi akigira ya nsina ngufi mu byo akora byose. Kenshi rero abajujubya abandi ni byo baba bashaka.

4. Kugira impagarara

Iyo wogerwaho uburimiro uhora uhangayitse ndetse ufite n’impagarara wibaza uko ejo buzacya. Ibi biterwa n’uko uba utabashije kwakira ibigukorerwa bityo ugahora mu muhangayiko udashira. Na none kandi umuntu wagezweho n’iyi ngaruka atangira no gukeka amababa abamwegereye nk’inshuti, umuryango, abo bakorana n’abandi abashinja ko baba bari inyuma yo kujujubywa kwe.

5. Guhungabana k’ubukungu

Kenshi ku muntu ujujubywa ari ku mirimo runaka imuhesha imibereho bituma ava ku kazi. Iyo atakivanyeho mu gihe umukoresha we atamushaka akora uko ashoboye akamumanura mu ntera. Na none kandi umuntu wagezweho n’izi ngaruka akunze gusiba ku kazi ndetse bamwe bagahora barwaye umutwe n’izindi ndwara zitewe no guhangayika. Ibi rero bituma adatera imbere kandi bikanahungabanya ubukungu bw’igihugu cyane ko iyo abantu bakora badafite ubwisanzure bituma umusaruro bagomba gutanga uba muke. Mu zindi ngaruka mbi tutakwirengagiza harimo kwigunga ndetse no gutakariza icyizere abantu.

Nsoza nagira nti “Umuntu akenera kwizerwa, kumvwa ndetse akanahabwa agaciro kamukwiye ku bw’icyo aba azi kandi cyanatanga umusaruro. Wowe rero ujujubya abandi urabicira ubuzima utanaretse iterambere ry’igihugu. Guhwitura ni ngombwa kandi bigakoranwa urukundo n’ubushishozi butarimo gushiha abo ukwiye kuyobora cyangwa guha urugero rwiza. Gusa yaba abakoresha, yaba ababyeyi ndetse n’abandi bajujubya abo bafiteho ububasha bari bakwiye kubireka bakimakaza umuco wo guha agaciro abo bashinzwe. Reka twubahane maze dusenyere umugozi umwe dore ko inzira tugana ari imwe yo kubaka ejo hazaza huzuye amahoro, iterambere n’umunezero. Tumenye kubana neza n’abandi kabone n’aho waba ufite ubushobozi ku muntu runaka, tugize umutima w’ubworoherane no kwicisha bugufi, nta kabuza twabasha kurandura ibibazo bitandukanye bikomoka kuri iyi myitwarire yo kujujubya abandi nk’icy’ubuzererezi, ihohoterwa ritandukanye ribera mu miryango ndetse no mu kazi gatandukanye.

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Kenshi na kenshi iyo uganiriye n’abasore n’inkumi wumva bamwe muri bo bagira ipfunwe ry’uko bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina batarashinga urugo, ndetse ugasanga akenshi ab’igitsina gore bo babigira ibanga rikomeye ngo hato batazavaho bitesha agaciro. Ku rundi ruhande ariko usanga abasore batarashinga urugo bo kuvuga ko bakoze imibonano mpuzabitsina aba ari ishema. Iyo uganiriye n’ibitsina byombi ntibatinya kuvuga akabari ku mutima ku bijyanye no gushira ifemba ry’imibonano mpuzabitsina igihe baba baramutse babonye abo bashingana urugo byemewe n’amategeko ndetse na Kiliziya. Umukobwa ubonye mugenzi we agize umusore umubwira ijambo ryiza rimwambika agatimba ashengurwa n’intimba ati, “ naba nawe aragikemuye ntazongera gukora bubyizi”, ariko agakubita agatoki ku kandi ati nanjye kizakemuka. Umusore nawe ati nimara kuzana uwanjye sinzongera kujarajara. Ariko se koko ibi byifuzo by’impande zombi ku bijyanye n’uko kubaka urugo byaba ari urukingo rw’irari ry’imibonano mpuzabitsina ryibasira abatararushinga byaba aribyo? Niba aribyo se kuki twumva abagabo baca inyuma abagore babo cyangwa se tukumva ngo mukarunaka akata kwa runaka utari umugabo we cyangwa ukumva umugabo runaka avuga ati ngiye kureba utunyogwe cyangwa umugore nawe akareba akana k’agasore kamurangiriza ibibazo? Aha rero tugiye kuva imuzi bimwe mu byo abashakanye bagomba kwirinda mu rwego rwo gutuma umushyikirano wabo mu buriri ubabera umugisha aho kubabera umuvumo bityo binakumbuze abatarashaka.Ubusanzwe ibyiyumvo n’imvamutima emwe n’ibizongamubiri by’umugabo n’umugore bigenda bitandukana. Uku gutandukana kugira ingaruka ku mishyikirano y’abashakanye. Kenshi ushobora gusanga umugabo akunda imibonano mpuzabitsina ku buryo we aba yumva ko yanayikora buri saha mu gihe umugore we ashobora kuba adakunda imibonano mpuzabitsina ku buryo kuri bamwe bumva bibahagije kuyikora rimwe mu byumweru bibiri cyangwa rimwe mu kwezi. Ku rundi ruhande hari abagore nabo bagira ubushyuhe cyane ku buryo baba bumva bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina inshuro nyinshi bishoboka mu gihe bashobora kuba bafite abagabo bakonje mbese badashishikazwa n’iki gikorwa cyane. Aha rero ni ruba ruzingiye kuko umwe mu bashakanye atabyitonzemo ashobora gusenya.

Umuhanga umwe witwa Friedrich Nietzsche, yaravuze ati, “ Abagore bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina n’abagabo bashaka gukundwa, mu gihe abagabo bo bakunda abagore kugira ngo bemererwe imibonano mpuzabitsina.”

Nubwo bimeze gutya ariko ntibibuza ko havuka ibibazo mu buriri biturutse ku mpande zombi. Usanga akenshi na kenshi abagabo aribo bagira ubushake n’ubushyuhe bwo kwibona muri iki gikorwa cyane kurusha abagore kubera imisemburo y’ubugabo bwabo myinshi. Gusa ariko ntitwirengagije ko hari n’abagabo badakunda iki gikorwa cyo guhuza urugwiro bitewe n’imiterere yabo, akazi, imihangayiko yo gushakishwa ubuzima n’izindi mpamvu zitewe n’uko baba bafatwa n’abo bashakanye.

Ku bagabo bagira ubushyuhe cyane, ni byiza ko bagomba mbere na mbere kwiyumvisha imihindagurikire iba mu mubiri w’umugore maze bakabasha kwihanganira bagenzi babo banabaguyaguya babagusha neza kugira ngo bibone muri uyu mwanya mwiza wo gushyigikira umuryango. Abagore akenshi usanga biba ngombwa ko babana n’abagabo babo baganira ndetse bakanagirana umushyikirano wimbitse kugira ngo bumve babifuje cyane. Aha rero abaganga b’ibijyanye n’imikorere y’ibitsina bakaba bemeza ko igihe hari umushyikirano ntamakemwa hagati y’abashakanye ndetse hari n’urukundo nta kabuza bahuza urugwiro bigatinda ndetse ku buryo bashobora gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina byibuze kabiri mu cyumweru.

Gusa ariko nk’uko bikunze kugaragara mu ngo z’iki gihe, biragoye cyane ko izio nshuro zigerwaho kubera impamvu zitandukanye zirimo gushakisha imitungo n’ibyubaka urugo, gukora imirimo izanira urugo inyungu, kwita ku bana ndetse n’imiti imwe n’imwe yo kuringaniza urubyaro ishobora kugira ingaruka ku bijyanye no kwishimira imibonano mpuzabitsina ku ruhande rw’abagore. Ikindi cyiyongeraho ni umunabi ndetse n’uburakari bukunze kuranga abagore bamwe na bamwe bishobora kubagiraho ingaruka ku buryo n’ibyiyumvo byabo ku bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina bikaba byahagarara.

Ku ruhande rw’umugabo nawe ashobora kuzongwa n’ibibazo by’urugo bimugora bikanamubangamira mu micungire y’urugo no gufata ibyemezo. Aha rero bihumira ku mirari iyo afite umugore ushaka ko agendera ku byifuzo bye bityo bikamutera umutima mubi wo kumva atamwifuje ndetse hakaba hanavamo kumuhurwa. Ni byiza ko abagore bivanamo imyumvire y’aba kera ivuga ko ngo umugabo ari umwana w’undi ko agomba guhozwaho ijisho maze agafatwa neza, akubahwa dore ko burya ibyo umugore yabimokoreye nta kindi kiba gisigaye kitari ukumurundaho urukundo maze gahunda zikagenda neza cyane. Gusa na babagore bagira ubushake bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina kugeza ubwo bishyize abagabo ku nkeke, bakwiye kumva ko umugabo nawe abikora yashimye kandi adahangayitse. Ku bw’ibyo bagomba kureka ya myumvire ishaje ivuga ko ngo igitsina cy’umugabo gihora kiri tayari isaha n’isaha kuko nawe akenera kumva atuje kandi adafite ibimubangamiye mu mitegurire y’icyo gikorwa.

Imicungire y’amafaranga nayo iri mu bitera akavuyo mu ngo z’abashakanye noneho byagera ku madeni aba agomba kwishyurwa bigahumira ku mirari. Kenshi usanga umugabo atagira agatege ko gutera akabariro mu gihe ahangayitse cyane. Ibi rero bishobora kuba intandaro yo gusenyuka k’umuryango aho umugore ashobora guca inyuma umugabo we ngo akunde ashakishe uburyo yakwirwanirira ngo akemure ikibazo.

Mu bubatse burya umwana ni umugisha. Gusa iyo abashakanye bari basanzwe badashyira ingufu mu kuryoshya kwabo birabagora cyane kugira ngo bongere gutera akabariro. Kenshi usanga abagore benshi urukundo rwabo barusuka ku bana maze abagabo babo bagacuka. Usanga akenshi n’iyo umugabo agize icyo abaza umugore aramushwishuriza akamubwira ko ari guha umwana ibere cyangwa ko atameze neza nyamaze ari ukumwikiza. Ni byo koko umwana aba agomba kwitabwaho, ariko na none igihe umugore adacunze neza ntiyite ku mugabo we, biba byoroshye cyane ko abandi bashobora kumumwitiraho bityo akamubura amureba.

Kutamenya guhuza ibitsina, kutamenya ibishimisha mugenzi wawe muri iki gikorwa, ubujiji ndetse n’imiziro imwe n’imwe ishingiye ku gitsina bigira ingaruka ku mibonano mpuzabitsina hagati y’abashakanye. Gusa ubu abantu bagenda bajijuka gahoro gahoro ku buryo hari bimwe bigenda bicika nubwo ibibazo bishingiye ku mibonano mpuzabitsina bigenda byiyongera umunsi ku wundi. Ibi bikaba biterwa n’uko muri iki gihe abasore n’inkumi bajya gushaka barabanje kugacishaho. Usanga akenshi iyo uwakinnye cyane ahuye n’udafite akamenyero mu kibuga akamubihiriza biba imbarutso yo kutamwubakiraho maze ugasanga aka ya mvugo yadutse vuba aha y’uko abashakanye iyo bacanye inyuma ngo baba bagiye kurya muri Resitora. Nyamara birakwiye ko ufite icyo azi yakagombye kurenga isoni dore ko ngo burya zirisha uburozi maze akagira icyo yigisha mugenzi mu rwego rwo gukomeza urugo rwabo. Muri iki gihe turimo kandi ntibikwiye ko umugabo aca umugore we inyuma amuziza kutamuryohereza kandi afite igihe gihagije cyo kumwunganira amubwira ibimugwa ku mutima ndetse akanamwigisha.

Mu rwego rwo gutagatifuza iki gikorwa, dore ibyo abashakanye bakwiye kwitaho aho guhora baryana cyane cyane ko iyi ngingo ariyo nkingi ya mwamba y’umubano wabo. Ni byiza ko abashakanye bajya bahora baganira, batera urwenya kugira ngo igihe bamarana bishimanye , baseka cyiyongere maze binategure igikorwa nyamukuru. Mugabo, umugore wawe niyo nshuti y’inkoramutima ya mbere ugomba kugira nk’uko nawe mugore, umugabo wawe ariwe nshuti nyanshuti magara ufite. Aha rero ntimugomba guhishanya amabanga kuko burya icyo uhisha uwo mwashakanye bishyira kera bikamenyekana. Ni byiza ko igihe mwazamuye akaboko mugira muti turemeranye mu bibi n’ibyiza mutakagombye gukwepana.

Abashakanye bakwiye guhora biga kunoza umubano wabo kabone nubwo haba hari ibyo batumvikanaho. Ni byiza ko haboneka uharira undi kandi ntibibangamire inyungu z’urugo cyangwa se ngo bigire uwo bikomeretsa. Aha usanga akenshi bishoborwa na bake kuko buri wese aba ashaka kwihagararaho no gukurura yishyira aribyo akari cyera bibyara intonganya ndetse n’ihohoterwa iyo hatagize ushyira mu gaciro ngo acishe bugufi. Ibi kandi byo guhora bahanganye bituma ubwuzu n’urugwiro umwe yakagiriye undi bigenda biyoyoka maze byagera mu buriri bigahinduka umwaku aho umwe atera undi umugongo. Iherezo akenshi ni ugusenya.

Ni byiza na none ko abashakanye babagarira urukundo rwabo babicishije mu kiganiro cyimbitse. Aha si ukuganira bisanzwe by’imvura iragwa, ahubwo n’ukuganira gushingiye ku gusesengura ukamenya mugenzi wawe by’ukuri, ukamenya ibyo yanga, ibyo akunda, uko wamwitaho, uko akubona, uko wamwitwaraho ndetse yemwe ukanamenya n’imihindukire ye n’uburyo ushobora kubyitwaramo hatabaye amakimbirane akabije. Ibi rero iyo abashakanye bombi babashije kumenya uko babyitwaramo barubaka, bakagira umunezero, bagatunga bagatunganirwa kuko baba bumva ibintu kimwe ndetse yemwe n’imibonano mpuzabitsina yabo ntigire ikiyihungabanya.

Hamwe n’urukundo, abashakanye bagomba kwemerana. Aha umugabo akemera umugore we uko ari ndetse n’umugabo akemera uko mugenzi we ari. Ibi imiryango imwe n’imwe ntibasha kubigeraho kubera ko kenshi usanga abagore cyane cyane bashaka guhindura abagabo babo uko babyifuza. Ni byiza ko yaba hagati y’umugabo n’umugore ntawe ugomba kumva ko agomba guhindura mugenzi 100% nkawe. Nk’uko abemera Imana babisoma muri Bibiliya, umwe mu bashakanye agomba kwirinda kubera mugenzi we umutwaro cyane yirinda ibikorwa byo gusesagura, gusuzugura cyangwa gusuzuguza uwo mwashakanye, kumufata nabi, kumunegura, kumufata uko ubyishakiye dore ko ngo burya icyo wifuza ko utakorerwa ntukagikorere mugenzi wawe. Kuri ibi byose hiyongeraho kubabarirana hagati y’abashakanye kuko burya kugwa mu makosa ntawabyirinda gusa kuyagumamo nicyo kibazo. Ibi byose hamwe no gusanga, kwicisha bugufi ndetse no gushyira mu gaciro nibyo byubaka urugo.

Nsoza ndagira ngo aho kugira ngo wowe wubatse uhora wumva udashishikajwe n’imibonano mpuzabitsina ndetse ukumva ko igihe mugenzi wawe agusabye ko muyikorana aba abiguhatiye cyangwa se agushyizeho akavuyo , subiza agatima impembero ugarukire uwo ukunda umurinde kubabara no gukora icyaha cyo kwifuza. Wowe ukunda kwikorera iki gikorwa bityo uwo mwashakanye yagutera umugongo ukumva ko hari uburenganzira wimwe, muganirize umenye ikibimutera munoze umubano wanyu nta kabuza ibibazo byinshi bishingiye kuri iyi ngingo bizakemuka. Erega n’ibyanditswe byera biha umugisha imibonano mpuzabitsina hagati y’abashakanye nk’uko Pawulo abibwira abashakanye ko nta mpamvu yo kwiyimana kugeza ubwo umwe muri bo atangira ingeso mbi zo kwifuza arizo zisenya umuryango. Nubwo gushaka ari bumwe mu buryo bwo gushira ipfa n’umururumba w’imibonano mpuzabitsina, ntibikwiye guhubukirwa nk’uko bamwe babigenza kugira ngo bahindure irangamimerere ryabo ariko bitabarimo namba. Birakwiye na none ko imibonano mpuzabitsina y’abashakanye ijyana gutekereza kubikomeza urugo hitabwa ku iterambere ryarwo mu mibereho myiza, ubukungu, guteganiriza ejo hazaza, kurera abana ndetse no kubana neza n’imiryango n’ababazengurutse muri sosiyete.

Basezeranye nyuma y’uko umwe yemeye guhinduza igitsina

Kuki Abagabo Bafite Abana Baba Indahemuka

Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe n’impuguke mu buzima bw’imyororokere n’imikorere y’imvura n’imisemburo yo mu mubiri zo muri Kaminuza Northwestern mu Bwongereza bwerekana ko kuba umubyeyi ku bagabo bigabanya ingano y’imisemburo y’ubugabo(testosterone) igenga imibonano mpuzabitsina.Ibi ngo bikaba bituma baba indahemuka ntibace inyuma abo bashakanye kubera inshingano yo kurera baba bafite.

Nk’uko tubikesha urubuga rwa BBC, ngo umugabo ukimara kugira umwana, imisemburo ye y’ubugabo igenda igabanuka gahoro gahoro. Ibi ngo bikaba biterwa n’ukuntu abagabo baremwe aho bafite umwihariko muri bo wo kwita ku bana babo aribyo bigabanya iyi misemburo igihe abana bavutse.

Uku kugabanuka kw’iyi misemburo kuba nyirabayazana wo gutuma umugabo ashikama akita ku bibazo by’umuryango aho kujarajara nk’abasore baba bataragira inshingano nk’uko iri tsinda ry’abashakashatsi bo muri iyi kaminuza babitangaza.

Ubusanzwe iyi misemburo y’ubugabo cyangwa testerone ngo itera amashagaga igitsina gabo bityo bigatuma umuhungu atangira kugira ibyiyumvo n’ibizongamubiri bidasanzwe bimutera gushakisha bubi na bwiza uwo badahuje igitsina wo kuryamana nawe. Ibi rero bigasobanura Impamvu benshi mu basore bumva ikintu cya mbere babona ku bakobwa bakunda ari ugokorana imibonano mpuzabitsina. Mu kwemeza neza ibyavuye muri ubu bushakashatsi, izi mpuguke zabukoreye ku basore 624 bakurikiranwe mbere batarashaka na nyuma bamaze kubyara kugira ngo harebwe ikinyuranyo. Ibyavuyemo byerekanye ko ngo iyo umugabo akimara kugira inshingano zo kurera, imisemburo y’ubugabo ye ihita igabanuka by’umwihariko mu gihe umwana agifite mu nsi y’ukwezi kumwe.

Prof Ashley Grossman wo mu kigo cyiga ku mikorere y’imvubura n’imisemburo yo mu mubiri wo muri Kaminuza ya Northwestern atangaza ko igabanuka ry’iyo misemburo y’ubugabo ryagaragaye cyane ku bagabo ngo bakunze kubana n’abana babo kenshi babarera. Nk’uko bitsindagirwa na Christopher Kuzawa ngo kurera abana b’umuntu bakiri bato biragora cyane kandi bigomba ubufatanye bityo ngo ababyeyi b’abagabo bakaba bafite impano karemano yo gufasha muri iki gikorwa kiba kitoroshye. Akomeza atangaza ko mu gihe abagabo bakora izi nshingano za kibyeyi bita ku bintu nkenerwa umwana w’uruhinja akenera ngo bituma imyitwarire yabo mu byiyumvo, mu mitekerereze no mu mikurire y’umubiri bijyana n’iki gikorwa cyo kurera bityo imikorere y’umubiri w’umugabo igahinduka mu rwego rwo kujyana n’izi mpinduka ziba zimubayeho.

Abu bushakashatsi bukomeza bwerekana ko kugabanuka kw’imisemburo y’ubugabo(testerone) ngo bishobora kurinda umugabo zimwe mu ndwara karande ngo ari nabyo bisobanura impamvu abagabo bafite abagore ndetse kandi banabyaye bagira ubuzima bwiza kurusha abakiri ingaragu bo mu kigero cyabo. Ibi ngo bigaterwa n’uko baba batakijarajara mu gushakisha abo bahuza ibitsina ndetse ngo banahangayikire kubona inkumi babyumva kimwe nk’uko abasore bibagendekera ndetse bakananzura bavuga ko umugabo ufata umwanya akabana n’abana be akita ku nshingano ze zo kurera no kwita ku muryango ngo aba indahemuka.

Ni Ryari Gusezerana Rwihishwa Byarinda Ibibazo

Mu rwego rwo gukemura amakimbirane yo mu miryango no guca burundu ubuharike, ubuyobozi bw’umurenge wa Musenyi mu karere ka Bugesera mu ntangiriro z’Ugushyingo 2011 bwaseranyije imiryango 220 yabanaga ku buryo bunyuranyije n’amategeko. Abasezeranye batangaje ko guserana byemewe n’amategeko bifite inyungu zo kugira agaciro mu muryango, abana na bo bakagira uburenganzira ku mitungo y’ababyeyi babo.

Iki gikorwa cyo guseranya imiryango yabanaga ku buryo bunyuranyije n’amategeko, kije nyuma yo kubona ko mu murenge wa Musenyi mu karere ka Bugesera, hahoraga ibibazo by’amakimbirane by’urudaca bishingiye ku buharike, dore ko muri uwo murenge ngo uhasanga umugabo ubana n’abagore batatu cyangwa bane, kandi ugasanga nta cyo bimubwiye!

Umunyamabanga nshingwabikorwa w’umurenge wa Musenyi Murwanashyaka Oscar avuga ko gusezeranya iyi miryango yabanaga rwihishwa bizaca amakimbirane ashingiye ku mitungo, binahe uburengenzira ku bana. Yagize ati “Bizatuma amakimbirane, ishyari n’urugomo bicika burundu mu miryango. Twahoraga twakira ibibazo bya buri gihe, aho umugore n’umugabo bahozanyaga ku nkeke, abana ugasanga bahababarira, batagira uburengenzira ku mitungo n’ibindi”.

Mangada Jeannette, yatangarije Imvaho Nshya ko yashakanye n’umugabo wari ufite abagore 4, ariko batarashyingiranwe byemewe n’amategeko, baza guhunga mu gihe cya Jenoside mu 1994, aho bahungukiye, ngo we na bakeba be bahoraga mu makimbirane, bapfa imitungo. None ngo gushyingiranwa byemewe n’amategeko abibonyemo inyungu kuko azagira uburengenzira ku mitungo ndetse n’abana be bagahabwa agaciro.

Muri uwo murenge wa Musenyi utuwe n’abaturage 29.791, iyo miryango 220 niyo yonyine yabanaga itarashyingiranywe, mu gihe indi yamaze gusezerana. Ikigaragara ariko ni uko abakobwa bamwe bishyingira bakiri bato, kuko hari nk’uwo usanga afite imyaka 22 gusa, ariko abyaye kabiri. Umunyamabanga nshingwabikorwa w’umurenge wa Musenyi Munyaneza Oscar yaboneyeho gushishikariza abaturage kwisunga ibigo nderabuzima bakaboneza urubyaro.

Source: Orinfor

Kutabyara Ntibituruka ku Bagore Gusa

Umuco nyarwanda wakoze utihanganira umugore utabyara ndetse ku buryo byari bigoye kumvikanisha ko n’abagabo bashobora kuba intandaro yo kutabyara. Iyi myumvire yo kumva ko umugore ariwe utabyara yagiye ikura mu muryango nyarwanda kugeza ubwo abagore benshi bahohotewe bikabije cyane bimwa uburenganzira bwabo ku mitungo y’abo bashakanye ndetse ntibinagarukire aho kuko benshi muri bahuye n’icyo kibazo bahuye n’ihohoterwa n’itotezwa rikabije.

Aho iterambere mu buvuzi rimaze kugera ku ntera ishimishije, ibi bibazo byo kubura urubyaro byagiye bibonerwa igisubizo hapimwe ibitera ubugumba nk’uko bikunze kuvugwa ku bafite icyo kibazo. Nk’uko byagiye bigaragazwa n’inzobere zitandukanye byagiye bigaragara ko n’abagabo bashobora kuba intandaro yo kutagira umwana mu muryango. Aha abasomyi bacu bashobora kwibaza byinshi ku bituma abagabo nabo bashobora kutabyara dore ko kenshi niyo habaye ikibazo nk’icyo cyegekwa ku bagore aho kugana amavuriro yabugenewe ngo hashakishwe umuti n’imvano y’ikibazo. Kenshi usanga mu byaro byo muri ibi bihugu byacu bikiri mu nzira y’iterambere bagira n’umwihariko wo kubaza abakuru aha ndavuga abapfumu maze nabo bakabashuka babumvisha ukuntu umugore runaka aciye umuryango ko ari umuvumo n’ibindi bitari byiza.

Ubugumba cyangwa kutabyara ku bagabo bishobora guterwa n’impamvu z’imiterere y’umubiri w’umugabo aho aba afite imisemburo idahagije, ibibazo bitandukanye ku mubiri we, ibibazo bijyanye n’imitekerereze ndetse n’ibyiyumvo mu mutwe n’imyitwarire. Ku bagabo bageregeza kwitwararika mu myitwarire yabo yaba uburyo bafungura n’uko banywa ndetse n’uburyo babaho muri rusange usanga bagira umubiri ufite ubushobozi bwo gukora intanga ngabo zifite ireme zibasha guhura n’intanga ngabo bigakora urusoro ruvamo umwana.

Dore zimwe mu mpamvu zishobora gukururira abagabo ibyago byo kutabyara:

• Intanga ngabo zidafite ireme bitewe n’uburyo imibonano mpuzabitsina ikorwa. Ibi bigaterwa ahanini no kurangiza vuba (premature ejaculation), kubabara mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzatsina, ibibazo bitandukanye mu buzima nko gutuma intanga zidasohoka (retrograde ejaculation), indwara zikomoka ku ruhererekane no kuba amabya yagira inenge n’indwara zituma adakora intanga ngabo neza.

• Indyo mbi idakungahaye mu bitunga umubiri bituma n’amaraso aba make mu mubiri, kubyibuha bikabije, kubatwa n’ibisindisha n’ibindi biyobyabwenge harimo n’itabi bigabanya ubushobozi bw’umugabo bwo kubyara kuko byangiza uturemangingo tuba mu ntanga ngabo
• Gukorera ahantu hari ibyuka bihumanya nk’imiti yica udukoko n’ibindi bintu byo mu nganda nk’uburozi bwitwa lead, amarangi, imirasire y’ibyuma bimwe nk’ibyifashihswa mu buvuzi n’ahandi hatandukanye, mercury, benzene, boron n’ibindi byuma biremereye.
• Abagabo bajya muri sawuna bararye bari menge kuko intanga ngabo zizirana n’ubushyuhe bw’umurengera kuko butuma umubare wazo ugabanuka bityo mu gihe cyo gutera akabariro ntizibe zigifite umuvuduko n’amakarikari atuma zibasha guhura n’intanga ngore ngo bibyare igi rivamo umwana.
• Ingaruka zikomoka kuri kanseri n’imivurirwe yayo. Aha imirasire ikoreshwa mu kuvura no gutwika uturemangingo dutera kanseri byangiza ikorwa ry’intanga ngabo by’umwihariko igihe cyose imirasire yegerejwe amabya.
• Gusaza nabyo biri mu bituma amahirwe y’abagabo yo kubyara agenda agabanuka cyane cyane abageze hejuru y’imyaka mirongo ine.
• Gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri ikaze cyane kandi buri gihe bituma imisemburo ya adrenal steroid iba myinshi maze igatuma imisemburo y’ubugabo iba mike cyane ari byo bituma umugabo atabyara.
• Kubura vitamini C ndetse n’ubutare bwa Zinc mu biryo
• Kwambara imyenda y’imbere ibahambiriye cyane byongera ubushyuhe mu mabya bityo ingano y’intanga ngabo ikagabanuka aribyo bigira ingaruka ku ntanga ze ziba zitifitemo ubushobozi bwatuma zihura n’intanga ngore bigakora urusoro.
• Umunaniro ukabije

Kuri izi mpamvu twavuze hari n’izindi zishingie ku miterere y’amabya zishobora gutuma intanga ngabo ziza zidafite ubushobozi bwo kuba zahura n’intanga ngore ngo bikore umwana. Ntitwakwirengagiza kandi n’indwara zimwe na zimwe nk’imitezi, tifoyide, gripe, ibishyute, mburugu, igituntu, indwara ya brucellosis yibasira amatungo ariko ikanafata n’abantu ndetse n’indwara y’amashamba kuko iyo zitavuwe ziba nyirabayazana wo kutabyara ku bagabo.

Birakwiye ko niba habonetse ikibazo cyo kutabyara bitagomba kwegekwa ku bagore kuko nk’uko bigaragaye n’abagabo bibabaho. Ni byiza ko abashakanye bahuye n’iki kibazo bagomba kujyana kwa muganga bose bagasuzumwa kugira ngo hamenyekane ufite ikibazo maze byorohere muganga kugikemura aho kwirukira muri babandi twita abahanuzi bibwira ko aribo batanga urubyaro.

Umugabo wa Mbere Watwite Inda Akanayibyara

Abantu benshi bashobora kuba bakibaza niba umugabo ashobora gutwara inda nk'umugore. Kugeza ubu igisubizo ni ‘yego’ kuko umugabo Thomas Beatie wo muri Arizona muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika (USA) yamaze kumara izi mpaka.

Nk’uko tubikesha urubuga :www.pregnantman.net bikaba byaranasohotse mu kinyamakuru Dailymail cyandikirwa mu Bwongereza mu nomero yacyo yo ku wa 28 Nyakanga 2011 byose birashimangira ko Thomas Beatie utuye muri Leta ya Arizona ho muri USA ari we mugabo wa mbere watwaye inda akanayibyara ku isi. Ibi bitangazamakuru bikomeza bitangaza ko atabyaye umwana umwe gusa kuko magingo aya afite abana bagera kuri batatu.

Thomas Beatie yatunguye isi bwa mbere ubwo yabyaraga umwana we wa mbere mu mwaka wa 2008 kandi ari umwana, ari na se bose ubuzima bwabo bukaba ntacyo bwacyemangwagaho. Icyo gihe ngo akaba yari yatangaje ko yifuza kubyara abana benshi, ario na byo bigeze magingo aya afite batatu ari bo: Susan w'imyaka itatu, Austin ufite imyaka ibiri na Jansen w'umwaka umwe.

Thomas Beatie n'umugore we Nancy ngo batewe ishema n'umuryango wabo aho batuye muri Arizona.

Ubusanzwe, Thomas Beatie ni umugabo wahinduriwe igitsina kuko yavutse ari umukobwa hanyuma agashakisha uburyo yagihinduza kugira ngo abone amahirwe yo kuba umugabo wa mbere mu gutwara inda. Kugeza ubu afite imyaka 37 y’amavuko. Guhera ku myaka 20 yatangiye guterwa imisembura ya testosterone ituma umuntu aba umugabo, aho yongeyeho no kwibagisha amabere ya gikobwa kugira ngo abere umugabo icyarimwe. Cyakora nyine yakomeje intego ye yo kwibyarira, none agize abana batatu yitwitiye akabyara.

Inkomoko yo Gukebwa cyangwa Gusiramurwa

Muri iyi minsi igihugu cyacu cyatangiye gahunda y’igikirwa cyo gusiramura abagabo mu rwego rwo kubaha amahirwe yo kutibasirwa na virusi itera sida n’izindi ndwara zandurirwa mu mibonano mpuzabitsina dore ko ubushakashatsi bwerekanye ko abagabo basiramuye bafite amahirwe agera kuri 55% yo kutandura virusi itera SIDA igihe bakoze imibonano mpuzabitsina idakingiye. Gusa iyi gahunda abatayumva ibatera kugira ubwoba nyamara ari bumwe mu buryo bwo kubungabunga amagara yabo muri iki gihe isi yibasiwe n’icyorezo cya SIDA. Nyamara nk’uko amateka abyerekana, iki gikorwa cyo gusiramura gifite akamaro kanini kandi akaba na bumwe bugaragaza umugabo usobanutse kandi wita ku isuku ye nk’uko bigaragazwa n’imico itandukanye y’aho iki gikorwa cyatangiriye.

Igikorwa cyo gusiramura abantu b’igitsinagabo ntabwo ari icyaduka nk’uko benshi bakunze kubyibeshyaho bibwira ko ngo byaba ari iby’abayisiramu. Gusiramura byatangiriye mu gihugu cya Egiputa ariyo Misiri y’ubu mu mwaka wa 3000 mbere y’Ivuka rya Yesu iki gihugu kikiyoborwa n’abafarawo. Gusiramura byakorwaga mu rwego rwo gutuma abagabo bagira isuku bakarwanya n’indwara yatumaga agahu ko kw’isonga y’igitsina katihina(phimosis). Ikindi kandi bwari na bumwe mu buryo bwo kwiyeza.

Uyu muhango ukaba warakomereje no ku bakomoka kuri Aburahamu ku bw’isezerano bari barahawe n’Imana ndetse buba na bumwe mu buryo bwafashije abayisiraheri b’igitsinagabo kuba mu butayu. Gusiramura abagabo byakomeje kuba umuco w’abayuda aho abana b’abahungu bakebwaga nyuma y’iminsi umunani bavutse.

Idini ya Islam ikimara kuvuka nayo yaje ishimangira umuco wo gukebwa mu bayoboke bayo. Ibi bikaba byarakorerwaga abana b’abahungu mu rwego rwo kubagirira isuku ndetse no kubagaragaza nk’abatanduye ariko by’umwihariko bukaba bwari bumwe mu buryo bwabafashaga guhangana n’ubushyuhe bwo mu mucanga wo mu butayu dore ko byinshi mu bihugu Islam yavukiyemo byari byiganje mu gace k’ubutayu.

Imyizerere ya gikirisitu igisesekara, uyu muco wo gusiramura abana b’abahungu waje kugenda usa n’aho ugabanuka kubera ko kiriziya itawakiriye neza kugeza n’ubwo uwavuga ibyerekeranye no gukeba yafungirwaga amasakaramentu. Gusa mu kinyejana cya 19 nibwo basanze ko ari ngombwa gushyira ingufu mu gikorwa cyo gukeba abana b’abahungu bavukaga kugira ngo harwanywe umuco utari mwiza wo kwikinisha(masturbation) wari wadutse mu rubyiruko rw’abana b’abahungu icyo gihe. Na none kandi hari imyizerere yerekanaga ko gusiramura bwari bumwe mu buryo bwifashishwaga mu kuvura igicuri, imbasa ndetse no gucibwamo (diarrhea)!

Gusiramura kandi nk’uko imico y’abaturage gakondo bo muri Australia ibyerekana ngo cyari ikimenyetso cyerekana ko umwana w’umuhungu akuze ndetse bukaba na kimwe mu byo basabwaga kugira ngo babashe gushinga ingo zabo.
Gusiramura nk’uko byagiye bigaragara ngo bwaje kuba bumwe mu buryo bwifashishwa buvuzi ku bantu batuye mu bihugu by’ubutayu cyangwa se ahandi hantu hashyuha cyane. Ababituye bafashe gahunda yo gusiramura abana b’abahungu kuko ngo uruhu rwo kw’isonga y’igitsina gabo iyo kashyuhaga byatumaga igitsina kigira umwanda maze byahura n’umucanga bigatuma igitsina cyibasirwa n’indwara zikomoka kukutagirira isuku.

Ibi byaje kwemezwa mu ntambara ya kabiri y’isi aho umusirikari w’umunyamerika wari uyoboye ingabo, General John Patton yatangaje ko abasirikare bagera kuri 150,000 bajyanywe mu bitaro kubera isuku nkeya y’ibitsina byabo bitari bisiramuye yabateye kugira indwara ya balanoposthitis. Ubwe yahise atangaza ati: “Iyo abasirikare bari ku rugamba bari kuba basiramuye byari kurengera amafaranga yabatanzweho n’igihe cyatakaye bajya kuvuzwa”.

Mu gitabo Desert Storm cyanditswe na Gardner afatanije na Schoen berekana ko umucanga ari kimwe mu byibasiye abasirikare b’Amerika n’aba Australia mu ntambara ya kabiri y’isi yose aho byabaye ngombwa ko Australia yohereza abaganga mu bijyanye no kuvura indwara z’igitsina gusiramura abasirikari badasiramuye bari ku rugamba.

Muri Madagasgar ho ngo wabaye umuco w’uko abagabo bose bagomba kuba barakebwe hatitawe ku idini runaka cyangwa umuco w’agace runaka waba ubarizwamo. Abagore baho bakaba bavuga ko imibonano mpuzabitsina n’abagabo basiramuye imara igihe kirekire kandi ikabamara ipfa ndetse kandi bakongeraho ko ngo biba ari byiza kandi bisukuye ku buryo nta mpungenge z’indwara baba bafite.

Nk’uko bigaragara gusiramura ni umwihariko w’ibihugu bishyuha mu gihe ibihugu bikonja iki gikorwa kidakorwa cyane. Gusa ariko birakwiye ko uyu muco ujyanwa no mu bihugu bikonja n’u Rwanda rurimo ntibyitirirwe abayisiramu cyangwa abayuda n’abandi babikora ku bw’impamvu z’umuco n’imyemerere ahubwo bigakorwa hagamijwe kurengera isuku y’igitsina cy’abagabo tutirengagije n’icy’abagore bahuza ibitsina nabo. Ikindi kandi hakwiye kumvikanishwa inyungu zo kugira igitsina gisiramuwe dore ko ari bumwe mu buryo bwo gukumira virusi itera SIDA n’izindi ndwara zandurirwa mu mibonano mpuzabitsina idakingiye.

Nyuma yo Kwikinisha Amasaha 10 Yaciye Agahigo mu byo Kwikinisha

Masanobu Sato, umusore ufite inkomoko mu mugi wa Tokyo mu gihugu cy’Ubuyapani, ngo ni we wegukanye umudari mu kwikinisha ku isi.

Ibi rero bikaba byarabaye mu marushanwa azwi ku izina rya
Masturbate-a-thon abera mu mujyi wa San Francisco agamije guteza imbere
igikorwa cyo kwikinisha. Uyu mugabo ngo akaba amaze gutwara uyu mudari
inshuro ebyiri, aho ngo ku nshuro ya mbere yikinishije amasaha agera ku 9
n’iminota 33 naho ku nshuro ya kabiri agakoresha amasaha 9 n’iminota
58.

Iri rushanwa rero ngo ryashyizweho n’ikigo cyitwa Center For
Sex and Culture cyo mu mujyi wa San Francisco, aho ngo ukora irushanwa
aba agomba kwikinisha igihe kirekire gishoboka atarasohora.

Nk’uko
7sur7.be ibitangaza, ngo uyu musore yavuze ko kugira ngo agere kuri iyi
ntambwe itangaje, atangira iki gikorwa we yita sport ye mu gitondo mu
gihe inshuti ye iba iri mu yindi mirimo nko guteka cyangwa areba
television, ngo ariko rimwe na rimwe nawe amufasha kubara amasaha.
Yagize ati ”Na we ntabwo akunda gutera akabariro, kimwe nkanjye”.

Ikindi
kandi uyu mugabo yatangarije San Francisco Weekly ko ngo kugira ngo
abone imbaraga, akora siporo nko koga ndetse no guterura ibyuma.

Imyanya y'Imyabarukiro Gore mu Nda y'Umugabo

Nk’uko tubikesha urubuga rwa internet: naturalnews.com, ngo mu gihe abaganga barimo bavura umugabo w’umuhinzi wo mu Buhinde mu Bitaro by’ahitwa Bhopal Madya Pradesh muri icyo gihugu, ngo batangajwe no kubona uyu mugabo witwa Ryalu afite ibibazo byinshi kurusha ikibazo cyari cyamujyanye kwa muganga, dore ko ngo ahanini cyari ukubabara mu nda bisanzwe. Abo baganga rero ngo basanze mu gifu cy’uyu mugabo harimo imyanya myibarukiro y’abagore yuzuye iri gukurira mu mara. Muri iyi myanya myibarukiro, ngo harimo udusabo tw’intangangore, inkondo y’umura, inda ibyara, ndetse n’utuyoboro tw’intanga ngore.

Nk’uko Dr Pramod Kumar Shrivastava, Umuganga ubaga kuri ibi bitaro uyu mugabo Ryalu yivurizagaho yabitangaje, ngo uyu mugabo umurebeye inyuma nta kibazo yari afite ndetse n’imyanya myibarukiro ye inyuma nta kibazo yari ifte kandi yakoraga neza. Cyakora ngo mu nda harimo ibintu bitandukanye n’ibyo batekerezaga. Yagize ati «Mu busanzwe, ibintu biba biri mu gace ko mu nda kasohotse kakabyimba kubera uburwayi (hernia sac) aba ari amara. Ati ‘ariko twatangajwe no gusanga imyanya myibarukiro y’umugore mu nda’. Tukaba twayikuyemo tuvanye inda ibyara mu nda ye»

Dr Shrivastava yavuze ko nubwo uyu mugabo yagaragaraga nk’ikinyabibiri, imisemburo ye (hormone) n’imyanya myibarukiro ye bisa neza cyane n’iy’umugabo. Uyu munganga akaba yarasobanuye ko impamvu yateye biriya ari nk’impanuka yabaye mu kwikora kw’ibice by’umubiri mu gihe yari mu nda ya nyina. Yakomeje avuga ko ibi bikomoka ku myanda ndetse n’imiti ikoreshwa mu kwica udusimba (insecticide ) cyane ikoreshwa mu buhinzi.

Ibi bitwereka ko atari byiza na gato kumena imyanda yose aho tubonye cyane cyane ko ihumanya ibyo turya, ikirere ndetse n’umubiri; ari na ho hava izi ngaruka zose.

Umugabo, Itabi n'Urukundo

Abagabo benshi cyane abanywa itabi bakunze kwegera abaganga bababwira ko batakibasha gutera akabariro nk’uko bikwiye. Ubushakashatsi bw’abaganga b’Abanyamerika bemeza ibyo, bakomeza bavuga ko mu buhamya bakiriye bw’abagabo bagiriye inama zo kureka itabi, bwemeza ko nyuma yo kurireka babonye impinduka mu gutera akabariro ugereranyije na mbere batararireka.

Burya ngo Viagra si yo yonyine yifashishwa mu kuvura ubushake buke bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina kuko ngo hari ubundi buryo wakoresha bwihuse kandi bworoshye, ari bwo « Guhagarika itabi niba urinywa ». Ubundi ngo iyo abo bantu bagannye kwa muganga ngo abagira inama yo kureka itabi byibura ibyumweru umunani.

Mu bagabo 65 bafashweho urugero bafite icyo kibazo, 20% baje gutanga ubuhamya ko gukunda agatabi byari bibatanyije n’abagore babo ariko ngo nyuma yo gukurikiza inama za muganga ngo bagarukanye umurava n’ubushake budasanzwe mu gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina ngo ku buryo basigaye bumva banabikora inshuro eshatu ku munsi mu gihe mbere n’inshuro imwe ku munsi byabaga ari nk’igitangaza.

Ubusanzwe ngo mu itabi habamo uburozi bwa « Nicotine” butuma abarinywa batagira ubushake buhagije bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina rimwe na rimwe ndetse igitsina cyabo kigakomeza gusinzira mu gihe abagore babo baba babashyiraho igitutu cyo gutera akabariro. Ibyo ngo bigasenya ingo nyinshi kuko abagore babo bakeka ko babaciye inyuma bityo ngo bakaba badashaka kubiteza.
Gusa ngo hashize imyaka 300 ingaruka mbi ziterwa n’itabi ku bagabo zishyizwe ahagaragara n’ubushakashatsi. Ariko ngo si icyo kibazo cy’abagabo itabi ritera kuko ritera indwara nyinshi z’uhumekero, umutima, umwijima n’izindi. “British journal of urology international” nacyo kigira abagabo inama yo kureka itabi kuko ngo ryangiza ubushake bwabo bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bityo bikanagira ingaruka ku ngo zabo.

Yahagaritse Ubusambanyi Nyuma Yo Kuryamana n'Abagore Barenga 300

Mu gihe Filimi yitwa Shame ivuga ku kuba imbata y’imibonano mpuzabitsina yashyirwaga ahagaragara mu gihugu cy’u Bwongereza, Jeff Leach, Umwongereza uzwi nk’umukinnyi w’amafilimi asetsa (comedien) yaboneyeho umwanya wo gutangaza ku mugaragaro ko ashaka guhindura ubuzima bwe mu byerekeranye no gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina akiha icyerekezo.

Nk’uko urubuga rwa internet 7sur7.be dukesha iyi nkuru rubitangaza, ngo uyu musore w’imyaka 27 y’amavuko amaze kuryamana n’abagore bagera kuri 300.

Jeff avugana na BBC yatangaje ko mu cyumweru kimwe aryamana n’abagore 10 batandukanye. bityo ngo akaba adashimishijwe no gukomeza kuba mu buzima nk’ubu nubwo ngo abona gukunda umugore umwe bakaba babana bitazamworohera.

Iki gitekerezo akaba yarakigize nyuma yo kubona bagenzi be bangana mu myaka barubatse ingo zigakomera ndetse bakagira n’abana, akaba na we yifuza kureka ubusambanyi hanyuma akabaho mu buzima busanzwe na we akagira umuryango nk’abandi.

Kwikinisha-Abagabo Benshi Babikorera ku Kazi

Mu bushakashasi bwakozwe n’ikinyamakuru Glamour US cyandikirwa muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika bwagaragaje ko 31% by’abagabo bakora igikorwa cyo kwikinisha igihe bari ku kazi.

Ubu bushakashatsi bukaba bwarakorewe ku bagabo bagera ku 1000 bugaragaza ko uretse kuba aba bagabo bemeza ko bikinisha iyo bari ku kazi, ngo hari n’abandi bagera kuri 31% bikinisha iyo bagiye gusura ababyeyi babo naho abagera kuri 24% bo bakaba bikinisha igihe batwaye imodoka. Urubuga rwa interet: 7sur 7.be dukesha iyi nkuru, ruvuga ko Cindi Leive, umuyobozi mukuru w’iki kinyamakuru cyavuzwe haruguru, yemeza ko ahereye kuri iyi mibare igaragara nk’irimo amarangamutima yemera ko mu gihe cy’imyaka icumi ishize uyu muco wo kwikinisha utari mwiza wagabanutse mu bagabo aho ubona ko bagenda barushaho kumva agaciro k’abagore babo ndetse n’ikibazo cyo gukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina n’abo bahuje ibitsina kikaba cyaragabanutse.

Kugeza ubu nibura ngo 56% by’abagabo ntibashimishwa n’abakundana bahuje ibitsina.

Imibonano mpuzabitsina n’inyamaswa na Kanseri Y'Igitsina Gabo

Ikoranabuhanga rishya ryakoreshwa mu kwica intanga ngabo, nk’uburyo bushya mu kuboneza urubyaro

Mu bushakashatsi buri gukorerwa muri kaminuza ya Calorina y’Amajyaruguru ho muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika, baravuga ko habonetse uburyo bushya bwo kwica intanga ngabo hakoreshejwe ibyo bita Ultrasons, umuntu ya kwita amajwi mato cyane umuntu atabasha kumva kandi afite ingufu nyinshi.

Ubu bushakashatsi buterwa inkunga n’umuryango w’umuherwe Bill Gates afatanije n’umugore we Melinda Gates bukaba bwarakorewe ku mbeba muri Laboratwari yiga ibijyanye n’imyororokere y’ibinyabuzima ndetse n’indwara zituruka ku misemburo yo mu mubiri (hormones). (Reproductive Biology and Andrology lab) yo muri iyi Kaminuza.

Inkuru dukesha BBC News report baratangaza ko Uyu muryango w’umuherwe Bill Gates watanze amafranga menshi uyaha abashakashatsi bo muri iyi Kaminuza kugira ngo bige kuri ubu buryo bushya bwo kwica intanga ngabo hakoreshejwe Ultrasons, mu rwego rwo kugira ngo haboneke ubundi buryo bwakoreshwa mu kuboneza urubyaro.

Aba bashakashatsi baravuga ko nyuma y’iminota 15 yonyine, imbeba yahawe izi Ultrasons usanga umubare w’intanga ngabo (Spermatozoides) ndetse n’uturemangingo (cellules) two mu mabya dukora intanga ngabo, muri izi mbeba wagabanutse ku buryo bugaragara.

Baravuga ko kandi ibi byigaragaza kurushaho igihe izi Ultrasons zihawe imbeba bazinyujije mu mazi ashyushye kandi arimo umunyu.

Aba bashakashatsi baravuga ko kugira ngo byibuze umugabo atabasha gutera inda, ari uko umubare w’intanga ngabo mu masohoro ujya munsi ya million 15 kuri mililitiro imwe y’amasohoro, akaba ari urugero rukoreshwa mu gupima ibintu bisukika). Mu mbeba rero ngo basanze uyu mubare ugabanuka kugeza ku kigero cya million 10 muri millitiro imwe y’amasohoro. bigaragaza ko ubu buryo bukoreshejwe ku bantu bwakora nta kabuza.

Dr James Tsuruta uyoboye itsinda ryaba ba bashakashatsi aravuga ko hakenewe gukora izindi nyigo zihambaye mu rwego rwo kureba igihe ubu buryo bukoreshejwe bwamara ndetse niba nta ngaruka bwatera zirimo ubugumba ku bantu.

Dr Allan Pacey umwarimu muri Kaminuza ya Sheffield aravuga ati “iki ni gitekerezo cyiza ariko kandi hakenewe inyigo zihamabaye kugira ngo turebe niba intanga zishobora kongerwa gukorwa nta kibazo, kuburyo bitatera ubugumba cyangwa izindi ngorane ku buzima nyuma yo guhabwa izi Ultrasons.

TESTOSTÉRONE ngo ushobora gutera abagabo kwikunda ntibanashyikirane

Imyitwarire yacu akenshi ikunze guhindurwa n’imisemburo iba mu mibiri yacu nk’uko bitangazwa na Doctor Nick Wright, unavuga ko iyi misemburo ishobora gutuma usabana n’abandi; ariko kuri uyu musemburo w’abagabo wo ni umwihariko utuma abagabo bikunda cyangwa ntibite kuri bagenzi babo. Uyu musemburo ukorana n’imyanya myibarukiro y’umugabo kandi ni wo utuma umusore atangira kuniga ijwi, akamera ubwanwa n’impwempwe igihe ageze mu gihe cy’ubukure.

Hari igihe umuntu aba adashyikirana n’abandi kandi na we atazi ibimubaho! Birashoboka ko nawe byaba bikubaho nta ruhare ubigiramo ahubwo biterwa n’uyu musemburo.

Abashakashatsi bo muri « Wellcome Trust Centre for Neuroimaging” muriKaminuza ya Collegeho mu gihugu cy’Ubwongereza bemeza ko uyu musemburo uzamura imyitwarire y’ukwikunda gukabije. Ibi bakaba barabyemeje nyuma yo gutera iyi misemburo abagore babiri maze mu gihe gito cyane bahindura imyifatire batangira no kurangwa no kwikunda bikabije.

Aba bagore bakimara gukorerwaho ubu bushakashatsi ngo babwiwe kuganira bashaka igisubizo ku kibazo maze bagaragaza ko imishyikirano yabo yagabanyutse ugereranyije na mbere batarayiterwa. Gusa ngo ubusanzwe n’abagore bagira udusemburo dukeya nk’utu dukorwa n’umubiri wabo bwite nk’uko bitangazwa na Topsante.

Mu gusoza tubabwire ko ngo iyi misemburo ishobora no gutuma abagabo bamwe na bamwe badashobora kwifatira imyanzuro bitewe n’iyi mpamvu, kandi hari n’igihe bituma umugabo yirengagiza ibitekerezo by’abandi.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Ibyo Kuribwa Amabya

Abagabo benshi bagira ibibazo ndetse n’impungenge nyinshi igihe bumvise uburibwe mu mabya, amabya akaba ari two dusabo dukora intanga ngabo ndetse n’imisemburo nka « Testosterone » ituma umugabo agira ibimuranga bikamutandukanya n’umugore.

Iyo umwana w’umuhungu akiri mu nda ya nyina amabya, nk’igice cy’umubiri atangira gukorerwa mu nda ye nyuma akazamanuka akajya mu gahu kayo bita (scrotum).

Nubwo amabya amanuka akava mu nda kugira ngo ajye muri kariya gahu, nyuma yo kuvuka ku mwana ntibibuza ko haba igice cyayo kiyahuza n’ibindi bice byo mu nda, iki akaba ari cyo bita « spermatic cord », gicamo imitsi y’amaraso, « nerves » cyangwa imyakura y’ubwonko ndetse n’imiyoborantanga (Vas deferens).

Iri manuka ry’amabya ava mu nda akajya mu gahu kayo bita scrotum, bifite akamaro gakomeye kuko bituma amabya abasha gukora intanga ngabo ku bushyuhe buri hasi ugereranije n’ubwo mu nda budashobora kuzangiza bityo umuntu akabasha kwibaruka cyangwa kubyara.

Ibintu bitera ububabare bwo mu mabya

Uburibwe bwo mu mabya, buturuka ku mpamvu nyinshi, aho zimwe muri zo ziba zikeneye ubutabazi bwihuse kwa muganga nkuko bitangazwa na « eMedecinehealth » aho bavuga ko mu mpamvu zitera kuribwa mu mabya harimo:
- Impanuka: Impanuka izo ari zo zose zangiza amabya zitera ububare bwinshi cyane mu mabya, izi mpanuka zikaba zishobora gutuma amabya abyimba, ibi bikaba bisaba ubutabazi bwihuse kwa muganga.
- Kwizinga kw’amabya (Torsion testiculaire): Hari abagabo usanga amabya adafashe neza kuri ka gahu, bikaba byatuma amabya yizinga. Uku kwizinga bituma imitsi y’amaraso inyura muri cya gice twavuze haruguru amaraso anyura muri ka gace gahuza amabya n’ibindi bice byo mu nda bita « Spermatic cord » adatembera neza ngo ajye mu mabya, bikaba byatuma ibya ripfa ndetse rikabora byihuse ibi bishobora kuba ku myaka iyo ari yo yose ariko cyane cyane bikaba ku bana bafite hagati y’imyaka 12 na 18.

Indwara nka Epididymitis : Ituruka ku ndwara zandurira mu mibonano mpuzabitsina, imiteezi nibindi, ikaba ari yo mpamvu nyamukuru itera uburibwe bwo mu mabya mu bagabo bafite hejuru y’imyaka 18.
Mu bindi bidasanzwe bitera kuribwa mu mabya harimo, cancer y’amabya, indwara z ‘impyiko, hernia, amashamba, n’ibindi.

Ni ryari kuribwa amabya bisaba kujya kwa muganga vuba ?

Umuntu uwo ari we wese, mu gihe icyo aric yo cyose yumvise aribwa mu mabya ni ngombwa kugana kwa muganga vuba byihuse, kugeza igihe muganga amenye aho ububare bwe buri guturuka.
Zimwe mu mpamvu zitera kuribwa amabya ntabwo zishobora kwirindwa, ariko ni ngombwa ko :
- Mu gihe uri gukora sport, cyangwa se ibindi bintu wambara ibintu bikurinda impanuka izo ari zo zose zagera ku mabya,
- Ambara agakingirizo mu gihe ukora imibonano mpuzabitsina wirinda SIDA ndetse no kuribwa amabya bituruka ku ndwara zandurira mu mibonano mpuzabitsina,
- Gukingiza umwana virusi itera amashamba na byo byamurinda kurwara indwara nka « Orchitis » zifata amabya ndetse zikaba zatera ubugumba.

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Rwanda: Abagabo Bamaze Kumenya Akamaro ko Kuboneza Urubyaro

Bamwe mu bagore batangaza ko abagabo babo bamaze kumenya akamaro ko kuboneza urubyaro ; bavuga ko mbere bajyaga kuruboneza rwihishwa batabimenyesheje abagabo kuko babibabuzaga, ngo ariko ubu abagabo nibo basigaye bibutsa abagore babo itariki yo gusubira gufata imiti yo kuboneza urubyaro.

Musabyimana Afisa, avuga ko hashize imyaka ine yitabiriye gahunda yo kuboneza urubyaro. Mu mwaka wa 2007 ubwo yazanaga igitekerezo cyo kuboneza urubyaro umugabo we yamumereye nabi cyane, aramubuza amubwira ko najyayo akabimenya atazongera kwitwa umugore we ukundi.

Musabyimana w’imyaka 32 y’amavuko avuga ko icyo gihe yaramaze kugira imbyaro eshanu akumva atakongeraho abandi maze ahitamo kwihisha umugabo we ajya mu muganga atangira gufata imiti yo kuringaniza urubyaro rwihishwa. Yagize ati : “Erega ntawakwishinga urushako ngo yirengagize ubuzima buri hanze aha.”

Umubyeyi twahuye uteze igitambaro cy’umuhondo mu mutwe ibi bita ‘mujitandiyo’ ahanini byambarwa n’abayisilamukazi, avuga ko yakimbiranye n’umugabo we akimara kumenya ko yaboneje urubyaro akamubwira ko bizabagiraho ingaruka mbi. Icyakora ngo uko iminsi yagiye ishira niko yagendaga asobanukirwa ubwiza bwabyo kugeza naho ubu ariwe umwibutsa gusubira kwa muganga ngo ahabwe indi miti yo kuboneza urubyaro.

Nyirakamana Marie umaze imyaka itatu muri gahunda yo kuboneza urubyaro nawe avuga ko umugabo we yabanje kubimwangira kugeza aho afashe umwanzuro wo kujyayo amwihishe, ariko nyuma yaje kubimenya afata ibinini bari bamuhaye arabijugunya.
Nyirakamana amaze kubyara abana babiri biyongera kuri batatu yari afite yarongeye asubira kwa muganga umugabo atabizi. Yagize ati : “Umuntu aba agomba kumenya ubwenge akarengera abana be.”

Gusa Nyirakamana avuga ko ubuzima bwigishije umugabo akaza kubona ingaruka nziza zo kuboneza urubyaro. Arongera ati : “Sinzi muri iyi minsi ubanza ndamutse ntwise twakwicana kandi ubundi wabonaga ntacyo bimubwiye kabone niyo twari kugira abana ijana.”

Abagabo bati”biriya byari ubujiji” Ntibugesika Elisa, avuga ko ubujiji aribwo bwatumaga abagabo babuza abagore babo kugana gahunda yo kuboneza urubyaro. Ntibugesika yongeraho ko hambere ubuzima bwari bworoshye byatumaga kuringaniza urubyaro bidahabwa agaciro nk’ubu ibintu byose byahenze.

Yagize ati : “Mbere byari ubujiji n’imyumvire mike yari iri mu bantu.” Uyu mugabo asaba Leta n’ibigo bifite iyi gahunda mu nshingano gukomeza gushyiraho inyigisho zerekana ubwiza bwo kuboneza urubyaro ngo kuko hakiri umubare w’abantu bagifite imyumvire mike kuri iyi gahunda.

U Rwanda rwihaye gahunda yo kugeza nibura kuri 70% by’abantu bakoresha uburyo bwo kuboneza urubyaro, ngo izagerweho mu mwaka utaha wa 2012. Uburyo bukoreshwa mu kuboneza urubyaro ku bagabo, harimo agakingirizo, kwiyaka umugore ndetse no kwifungisha burundu ari byo bita vasectomy mu rurimi rw’icyongereza. Ibi bikaba ari ugukata umuyoborantanga w’umugabo cyangwa se kwifungisha burundu ku mugabo.

Mu mwaka w’1934 Abanyarwanda bari 1.594.400 bakiyongera mu mwaka wa 2002 bakaba bari 8.162.715 naho 2012 bakazagera kuri 11.000.000 nta gushidikanya ko hatagize igikorwa, imibereho myiza itazagerwaho niba uku kwiyongera kutagendeye hamwe n’ubukungu. Kuko mu gihe Abaturage biyongera cyane kurusha uko ubukungu bwiyongera bishobora kuba intandaro y’igabanuka ry’umusaruro kuko umusaruro uboneka usangirwa na benshi.

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Mu muryango nyarwanda bikunda kuvugwa abantu batebya cyangwa banatera urwenya ngo umugabo runaka intama yaramukandagiye abandi na bo bati “Uriya mugabo ikinyamukondo cyahushye ku gitsina cye akiri umwana none byararangiye ntashobora kwiha akabyizi nk’abandi bagabo.” Abandi na bo barambiwe abasore bakuze batarashaka bakabita inkusi ndetse bakanavuga ko barozwe kubera ko ngo ntacyo baba bibwira ndetse ntibanatinye kubita ibiremba. Nyamara umusore cyangwa se umugabo udashwamadukira gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina siko aba ari ikiremba nk’uko benshi bakunze kubyibwira cyane iyo babonye umusore wagugiranye.

Hari abagabo bubatse ingo bafite ibibazo by’imikorere y’ibitsina byabo mu gihe cyo guhuza urugwiro kubera kudafata umurego nkenerwa muri iki gikorwa cyangwa se banafite ikibazo cy’uburemba. Iki kibazo gikunze gutera intonganya n’umushiha mu muryango ndetse kikaba cyanatanya abashakanye igihe cyose batabyitwayemo neza ngo barebe muganga dore ko benshi mu bagabo bahura n’iki kibazo bikunze kubatera ipfunwe. Iyo hatabaye gutana usanga haduka ingeso mbi zo gucana inyuma, kwangiza abana b’abasore bashorwa mu mibonano mpuzabitsina n’ibindi.

Ikibazo cyo kudafata umurego w’igitaina cy’umugabo cyangwa se uburemba nk’uko bimenyerewe mu Kinyarwanda biterwa n’impamvu zitandukanye zishobora kwirindwa. Iki kibazo kiravurwa maze uwari afite ipfunwe ryo kutabasha imirimo nyubakarugo agasubirana ubuzima.

Ubusanzwe kugira ngo umugabo akore imibonano mpuzabitsina bisaba ko igitsina cye kiba cyafashe umurego (cyashyutswe). Ibi bituruka mu bwonko burekura imisemburo (testosterones) ituma iki gikorwa kibaho.

Ese ubundi bigenda bite kugira ngo umugabo ashyukwe?

Gushyukwa bibaho iyo amaraso yuzuye imitsi ikoze utwumba 2 two mu gitsina cy’umugabo yitwa corpora cavernosa. Iyi mitsi na yo ikaba ishamikiyeho utundi tuyoboro tw’inyubakamubiri twitwa ‘collagen’ igira uruhare mu gutuma habaho kwaguka no guhagarara kw’igitsina. Uku kubyimba no kwaguka kw’igitsina-gabo bituma gihagarara bituruka ku bwonko burekura imisemburo maze ikakirwa n’imyakura igenga imikorere y’igitsina. Iyo hari ikintu cyose gitumye iyi misemburo ihagarara cyangwa kikabuza amaraso gutembera mu gitsina cy’umugabo nibwo havuka iki kibazo cyo kudafata umurego kw’igitsina mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina (erectile dysfunction) cyangwa se uburemba (impotence).

Nk’uko bitangazwa n’urubuga www.ehealthmedicine.com, zimwe mu mpamvu zitera uburemba cyangwa se kugabanuka k’umurego w’igitsina harimo indwara karande nka gisukari (diabetes), indwara y’umutima (cardio vascular disease) ndetse no kumagara kw’imiyoboro y’amaraso. Indwara z’impyiko, iz’umwijima na zo ziri mu byongera ubukana bw’iyi ndwara.

Abagabo batumura agatabi, abasoma agatama bakarenza urugero ndetse na babandi bagizwe imbata n’ibiyobyabwenge bishyira mu kaga kuko ibi byagiza imiyoboro y’amaraso maze bikaba byatuma amaraso yakagombye gukwira muri ya miyoboro y’amaraso yo mu gitsina agabanuka bityo mu gihe cyo guhuza urugwiro, igitsina ntikigire umurego.

Zimwe mu ndwara zisaba ko umugabo avurwa abazwe nka kanseri ya prostate ndetse na kenseri y’uruhago biri mu bimukururira kuba imyakura n’imiyoboro y’amaraso iri hafi y’igitsina yakwangirika bikaba byateza ikibazo igitsina cye ntikibe cyafata umurego mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Imiti yo kwishyira mu mutuzo abantu bamwe bakunze gufata na yo ishobora kuba nyirabayazana w’iki kibazo. Biba byiza rero iyo ufashe imiti ubanje kubaza muganga niba nta ngaruka yakugiraho.

Imibare myinshi y’abagabo bafite ikibazo cy’uko igitsina cyabo kidafata umurego mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina cyangwa uburemba ugaragara mu bantu bafite ibibazo by’umunaniro ukabije (stress), kwisuzugura, umuhangayiko ndetse n’abafite agahinda gasaze. Nanone ubushakatsi buherutse kwerekana ko abagabo bakunda kunyonga igare cyane bashobora guhura n’iki kibazo. Ibi bigaterwa n’uko intebe zimwe z’amagare zitsikamira udutsi tujyana amaraso mu gitsina cy’umugabo turi hagati y’amabya n’umwanya ucamo umwanda bityo tukaba twaziba.

Kenshi ubona bamwe mu bagabo bafata ku gasenda ngo barebe ko bakongera ubushyuhe bimwe abatebya bita gushitura. Nyamara ikibazo cyo kudafata umurego kw’igitsina ntibivurwa n’urusenda. Abandi na bo usanga bitabaza imiti ya kinyarwada bitirira iki kibazo cyo kudafata umurego kw’igitsina amarozi. Nyamara ni byiza ko niba uhuye n’iki kibazo ujya kwa muganga akagusuzuma kugira ngo amenye neza impamvu zigitera maze aguhe imiti cyangwa akugire inama ku buryo wakwitwara. Bumwe mu buryo bukoreshwa mu gusuzuma iki kibazo burimo ibizamini bya laburatwari aho hapimwa ingano y’imisemburo y’udusabo tw’umugabo (testosterone), harebwa kandi ingirangingo z’amaraso umugabo afite, hakarebwa cholesterol afite uko zingana ndetse hakanarebwa uko umwijima we ukora.

Nyuma yo gufata ibi bizamini byose umuganga ashobora kukwandikira imiti nka Vigra, cialis, levitra na staxyn. Iyi miti yose ikaba igira uruhare mu gutuma amaraso ajya mu gitsina cy’umugabo yiyongera igihe cyose agize ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Muganga kandi ashobora kukuvurisha imiti icishwa mu nshinge. Iyi miti ikaba yongera kwaguka kw’imiyoboro y’amaraso bityo amaraso agatembera mu miyoboro y’igitsina cy’umugabo aribyo bituma yaguka ikanabyimba bigatuma umugabo atagira ikibazo mu gihe akora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Iyo iki kibazo cyaturutse ku kuzima kw’umujyana utwara amaraso mu gitsina cy’umugabo, ashobora kubagwa kugira ngo haziburwe uwo mujyana. Ubundi buryo bwiza bwo kuvura iki kibazo cyo kudafata umurego mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina ni ubujyanama aho abagabo bagirwa inama yo kutihangayikisha ko ntacyo ari bubashe gukora kandi bakagirwa inama yo kongera urukundo n’abo bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina.

www.ehealthmedicine.com ikomeza igira inama abagabo gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri kugira ngo batazahura n’ikibazo cy’umubyibuho ukabije n’indwara ziwukomokaho dore ko nabyo ari isoko yo kugabanuka k’umurego w’igitsina cy’umugabo mu gihe cyo gutera akabariro. Ku batumura agatabi nabo bagirwa inama yo kubihagarika. Abafata agatama nabo bakarenza urugero, ababatwa n’ibiyobyabwenge nabo bagomba kubyirinda. Abarwaye indwara y’igisukari nabo bagirwa inama yo guhora bisuzumisha kugira ngo bagirwe inama y’uko bakwitwara ndetse banafashwe igihe baba bafite ikibazo cyo kudafata umurego mu gihe batera akabariro.

Abagabo bamwe ntibemera uburyo bwo kwifungisha burundu mu kuboneza urubyaro

Abagabo batandukanye bo mu Murenge wa Busogo, mu Karere ka Musanze mu Ntara y’Amajyaruguru bavuga ko batakwemera kwifungisha burundu, ngo kuko hari igihe bibaho ko umuntu ashobora kugira impanuka zo gupfusha umugore maze akongera gukenera kubyara.

Uburyo bukoreshwa mu kuboneza urubyaro ku bagabo rero, harimo agakingirizo, kwiyaka umugore ndetse no kwifungisha burundu ari byo bita vaséctomie mu rurimi rw’igifaransa. Ibi bikaba ari ugukata umuyoborantanga w’umugabo cyangwa se kwifungisha burundu ku mugabo.

Dr Utumatwishima Abdallah, Umuganga mu Bitaro Bikuru bya Ruhengeri, yasobanuye ko umugabo wifungishije burundu amara iminsi irindwi kugira ngo yongere gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ngo iyo minsi aba agomba kuyimara kugira ngo agasebe kaba karahasigaye gakire, gusa ngo iyi mibonano mpuzabitsina igomba gukorwa umugore ari ku bundi buryo bwo kuboneza urubyaro. Ibi bikaba biba mu gihe cy’amezi atatu kuko iyo umugabo bakimufunga burundu ngo haba hari intanga ngabo zazamutse zitegereje ko umugabo yakora imibonano mpuzabitsina zigasohoka. Nyuma y’amezi atatu rero ngo umugabo aba agomba kujya kwa muganga kugirango bapime amasohoro ye barebe koko ko nta ntanga zirimo.

Ubusanzwe, umugabo ugiye gukorerwa vaséctomie cyangwa gufungwa burundu, agomba kubisinyira kandi umugabo n’umugore bakabyemera mu masezerano yanditse.
U Rwanda ni kimwe mu bihugu bya Afurika bifite ubwiyongere bw’abaturage buri hejuru ugereranije n’ubutaka buhingwa, ibi bikaba bituma abagabo bakangurirwa uburyo bwo kuboneza urubyaro bwa burundu aho kubiharira abagore gusa.

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