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Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Uburyo bwo Kubenga Umukobwa mu Kinyabupfura

Friday, December 26, 2008

Uburyo 10 Bwo Kubenga Umusore Mu Kinyabupfura

Monday, December 22, 2008

Latoute Umugore w'Umwaka!

Umutegarugori w'Umwaka kuri blog Igituba

Blog igituba yishimiye gutangaza Umutegarugori w'umwaka ariwe Latoute. Iyi blog yagenewe yagenewe kuganira ku gitsina, idaca ibintu inyuma kugira ngo urubyiruko n'abandi babyitayeho basobanukirwe uburyo bwo guhuza igitsina, kwirinda indwara no kubaka urugo uruhire. Abumva ururimi iy blog yandikwamo abenshi bigirira isoni zo kuganira ku gitsina ku buryo bweruye. Ariko twabonye abatagira isoni kandi bifuza gufasha abandi kuganira ku gitsina. Tuboneyeho umwanya wo gutangaza ko twahisemo Latoute wabanje kuba umusomyi akanafasha n'abandi basomyi kuri blog igituba nyuma agahitamo kwitanga atangaza inyandiko zisobanura ibyo azi ku gitsina. Ibyo akaba yarabikoranye n'akazi ka buri munsi kamureba, no kurera urubyaro. Blog igituba,org rereo ikaba imutangaje nk'Umutegarugori w'Umwaka wa 2008 kuri blog Igituba. Yafashije abasomyi benshi kandi yafashije blog igituba kugera ku ntera igezeho ubu. Tubifurije mwese Noheli nziza nºUbunane

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Saturday, December 20, 2008

Sobanukirwa n'Imvugo y'Abagabo

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Ibyishimo n'umunezero mu mushyikirano mpuzabitsina

Ibyishimo n'umunezero mu mushyikirano mpuzabitsina par Latoute

Iyi nkuru yanditswe na Latoute

Mbanje gushimira Bangambiki washyizeho iri huriro nibwira ko rizafasha benshi mu kuzubaka zigakomera; nshimira na buri wese ugira icyo ahatangariza kugirango bigire icyo byungura uhasuye!

I.Kugira ibyishimo n'umunezero mu mishyikirano mpuzabitsina

Iby'urukundo ni ibintu byimbitse kandi bitanagoye gusobanukirwa cyane iyo hagamijwe kunoza imishyikirano mu guhuza ibitsina.

"Igitsina (Imboro n'Igituba) si iyobera nkuko bivugwa, Igitsina cyaremwe n'Imana , kiremanwa ubuhanga butangaje; cyaremwe muri gahunda yo gushimishirizwamo imibonano mpuzabitsina(cyane iyo iteguwe neza );ni naho dukomora urubyaro (mu gihe habaye gahunda yo gusama). "

Iyi nyandiko nubwo abenshi basanzwe bazi ibiyikubiyemo byabaye ngombwa ko hifashishijwe ubutumwa butandukanye bw'abasura blog "igituba" n'ubuhamya bwa bamwe bagaragaza ibitekerezo byabo; yegerezwa abakunzi ba blog n'inshuti zayo kugira ngo igirire akamaro abayisoma.

Nubwo yibanda cyane ku bikorwa rusange mu rukundo , hagamijwe icyavuzwe haruguru, iranibanda ku ruhare rw'umukobwa n'umugore mu gutegura ejo hazira amakenga mu gihe azaba ageze mu rwe..

1.Imyiteguro y'umukobwa mu guhirwa n'umubano wo gushyingirwa

Gushinga urugo rugahama kandi rukizihirwa ntibiterwa gusa nuko umugore ari umunyamirimo,ahubwo umukobwa witeganyiriza umunezero ashingira ubwenge, ibitekerezo n`ibikorwa bye ku muco wamureze, ugahora umubera nk`iriba avomamo ubuhanga bw`umubano utabangamira rubanda, kandi ntubangamire uwamushatse. Ahora yibuka ko ari we ruhimbi igihugu gishyinguraho umuco wacyo, byonyine bikamubera urumuri mu myifatire ye kuva yitwa umwari kugeza abaye umukecuru rukukuri, atyo agahora yitwa NYAMPINGA. Umukobwa amenyereza kandi na we yimenyereza kwakira abamugana; bityo abakuru n'abamukurikira abadabagiza bose abasangiza ubupfura bakamwita NYIRARUGWIRO.

1..Imyitwarire

Umugore wese aberwa no kugira urugwiro, ibambe n'ubwuzu kandi akaba aribyo ashyira imbere mu mishyikirano ishingiye ku bitsina.Aba yaratojwe kubihorana na we ubwe yarimenyereje kubigaragariza abo babana, ku buryo atajya agira ikimuzindaza ku mugabo wamwishakiye; ndetse niyo mpamvu umukobwa witegura gushyingirwa yibanda kunoza umuco n'imico myiza mbere yo kunoza umubiri, akurikije amajyambere, nayo ubwayo adahwema kwivugurura.

Buri mukobwa agira ishusho imuranga igizwe n'isuku,imvugo, umurimbo w'imyambaro n'imisatsi, isuku y'umubiri cyane igitsina kuko nayo ari isoko y'umunezero! Imvugo nayo yerekana imico ya nyirayo kandi ni ingenzi mu mubano w'abantu!

Umukobwa urimba ashimisha rubanda, agatera umugabo ishema (iyo yiyambitse umwambaro wa gikobwa, arabyina akizihira ibirori mu kibuga) agahora amwishimiye kandi ibyo byishimo bikagaragara mu mibanire n'ibikorwa byabo, maze urugo rwabo rugahora rususurutse! Ibyo nabyo agomba kubitegura!

*Inzitizi

-Ubujiji bwonona ingo nyinshi kuko buzitira ubwumvikane bw'ababana bikadindiza n'iterambere ry'urugo!

-Ubukubaganyi bw'umukobwa bwonona ubwumvikane bw'abashakanye kuko umutima nama we uhora ubimuryoza akabura amahoro ku giti cye, bigatuma n'uwamushatse aburirwa n'amahirwe amutezeho.

Umunezero muhire umukobwa awiteganyiriza cyane cyane yirinda icyo ari cyo cyose kimwangiriza ubusugi ku mubiri, kuri roho mu bitekerezo no mu myifatire, abasore benshi bakunze kuvuga ko nta mukobwa w'isugi ukibaho(ugifite akabambano ndangabusugi),na none ubushakashatsi bwerekanye ko gashobora gucibwa n'izindi mpamvu cyane nk'imirimo myinshi inaniza cyane umubiri, n'imikino ngororangingo imwe n'imwe; ikindi abahanga mu miterere y'umubiri basanze iyo "nyegamo" Atari yo iranga ubusugi bw'umukobwa nyabwo, kuko hari uvuka atayifite! Na none hari

umukobwa ubonana n'umugabo kandi akabambano ke ndangabusugi ntigahungabane na gato.

Ubusugi bw'umukobwa burangwa n'imyifatire ye mu mico, mu migenzereze, mu mibanire na rubanda no mu busabane na bagenzi be.umukobwa urinda ubusugi, yamagana icyo ari cyo cyose kimutera ikinegu imbere y'ababyeyi n'urungano ntiyitwe icyomanzi.

2.Ubuzima bwiza:

Umukobwa witegura yiteganyiriza umunezero, arwanyiriza kugira ubuzima bwiza kuko ari yo ngingo y'ireme mu mibanire ya babiri: agomba kugira amagara mazima kugirango kugirango abshe kwihanganira ingorane zo gusama no kubyara kandi ashobore gucunga ubuzima bwiza bw'abana, bw'umugabo we, n'ubw'abo mu rugo bose kuko nabyo ni umurimo we; azirikana ko ari we mugore n'umubyeyi w'ejo, kandi mu ngorane zimwe na zimwe arahaguruka agakora kigabo.

Abibuka iby'ubuzima ni bacye , ni ngombwa rero kwisuzumisha kwa muganga ngo barebe ko ari bazima mbere yo gushyingirwa ngo "ejo batavaho bashyingiranwa ari abapfu(ba nyakwigendera)"!Biba byiza umukobwa yisuzumishe ndetse akabaza ibibazo muganga kugirango ajijukirwe, ibyo bituma abazabana bashirana amakenga kandi bombi bakabana bizeye rwose ko ari bazima!

*Impungenge

-Abakobwa benshi batinya kwisuzumisha kubera gutinya ko muganga yamusangana indwara cyangwa se akamenya ko ajya akubagana, anatinya ko yamusangana ubugumba cyangwa se izindi nenge, hakaba niyo atinye kwerekana ubwambure bwe cyane cyane iyo akiri isugi, iyo atinyutse, hari bimwe na bimwe abwira muganga kugirango amusuzumane ubwitonzi, hakaba n'ibyo muganga yishakishiriza:igihe agira imugongo, uko aribwa, uko umutima utera, nuko ibihaha bikora kandi akamusuzuma inkari n'amaraso; agasuzuma amatako y'umukobwa areba uko ateye niba atazagira ingorane mu mishyikirano cyangwa niba azabyara bitaruhanyije,…ibyo byose umukobwa abikora agirango yiteganyirize umunezero ku giti cye n'uw'urugo rwe muri rusange, akazirikana ko indwara zishobora gutera ikibazo gikomeye mu byerekeye umubano, ndetse zikanavutsa abashakanye amahirwe n'umunezero n'urubyaro.

Impamvu zo kwisuzumisha

-Kwisuzumisha kwa muganga bifitiye akamaro umusore n'inkumi bashaka kubana bibarinda ibizazane n'ingorane bitabarika.Bituma bombi bishimira kubaka no kubana kandi uwo mubano bakawuha icyubahiro gikwiye.Bituma umukobwa ashira amakenga kandi agasobanukirwa n'umurimo nyakuri mu mubano w'abashakanye; bombi bategura ibyishimo n'umunezero birambye mu muryango.

II.Ubwumvikane mu mushyikirano

Iki gice kirarebana n'igihe umusore n'inkumi bageze mu rwabo n'umurimo w'ibanze ubategereje: na none nk'ibimenyerewe, ndibanda ku bigereranyo kugira ngo birusheho gusobanuka neza; cyane ko hari utumva icyo umugore amarira umugabo mu gihe barimo guhuza ibitsina, abagore benshi bibwira ko ari umurimo w'abagabo kurongora abafasha babo, bo ntacyo babafashaho, ugasanga umugabo ni we ugoka arongora kandi bagomba kurongorana ndetse bombi bakumva uburyohe kimwe!

Urukundo mu bashakanye rugaragarira mu bikorwa byabo byose no mu mibanire ya buri munsi. Kumvikana ntibabiterwa gusa nuko buri wese anogeye undi, ahubwo nukuntu bafatanyije mu mirimo mpuzabitsina nukuntu babyitayeho.

Umurimo w'urukundo mpuzabitsina wagereranywa n'ikivi bateruranye bombi maze bamara kugisoza bakishimira hamwe ibihembo bibategereje, mu gihe bagihinga umugore ntiyakwirushya ngo akenyere ageze ku birenge cyangwa ngo yambare imishanana (imikenyero), ntiyanambara ibimukobetse ngo bimubuze gutambuka no guterura isuka ngo asoze ikivi cye kandi umugabo adashoboye guhinga aha bombi: umugore yirwanaho akoresheje uburyo bwe, ubwenge n'imbaraga ze agatura ikivi cye. Na none ashobora kwiyambaza umugabo we igihe ageze ahakomeye akahamukubitira isuka, igihe ahuye n'ikibuye akakimuhigikira, yagera ku gihuru akakimutemera; ndetse byaba ngombwa akamusaba kumutangirira ikivi yananirirwa hagati ati"nzamura". Bagakomereza hamwe uko babishoboye, ikivi bakagitura, bakabona gusangira ibihembo n'umunezero bakesha umurimo wabo.

Imbogamizi: niba umugore adafite imbaraga zihagije zo gusoza ikivi cye, cyangwa se niba yahishe umugabo we ko akeneye inkunga, ntamubwire n'ukuntu yifuza ko amuyamba, azamusiga aharure icye undi akiri epfo yaharuhiye. Ibyo bimutera umwaga n'uburakari, ashobora kwivumbura kubera umujinya ibyo gusoza ikivi agaparikiraho ageze. Nakomeza atyo nta na rimwe azanezerwa ngo yishimire ibihembo by'umurimo we; kandi nta rimwe umugabo we azamwishimira. Niho havamo ko umugabo amusiga mu rugo akijyana yagira amahirwe akabona umufasha icyo kivi! Nyiranaka na we akaguma muri iyo "routine" ngo ahari niko zubakwa azira kudasobanura!

Ubuzima bwiza, imbaraga, urugwiro,urukundo, Ibyo byose ni Intwaro z'umugore wifuzq ko umurimo we mpuzabitsina uba indakemwa: bituma ahora yibuka ko nubwo umugabo we ashobora kumufasha adashobora gukora aha babiri. Iyo bamenyereye gufashanya no gusangira ibyishimo by'imishyikirano yabo, baba barageze ku bwumvikane bukomeye, kandi ibyo byishimo bikababera urumuri bahora barangamiye mu buzima bwabo kugeza batandukanyijwe n'urupfu.

Ibyo bisaba kwihangana (mu minsi ya mbere y'ubugeni akenshi buri umwe agenzura ibyo akoze ko bishimisha mugenzi we: guhoberana, gukina, gusomana, …); ibyo iyo bimenyerewe bikorwa nk'ubufindo nta witayeho kureba icyo undi abitekerezahono , binasaba kubahana n'urukundo.

Umugore ufite amagara mazima kandi ukunzwe n'umugabo we nta kimubuza kwishimira umurimo w'urukundo cyane cyane igihe na we akunze umugabo. Mwene uwo, iyo imishyikirano itamunogeye arababara.Ashobora no kuba yikundira gusa udukino tubanziriza igikorwa cy'urukundo nyacyo, kandi ntibimubuze gufatanya n'umugabo we cyangwa se kumwihanganira muri icyo gikorwa.

Hari abagore bamwe babona ko umugabo yifuza kubashimisha byimazeyo,nabo bagasa nkaho bishyimye koko kandi Atari byo. Burya ngo biraruta, ndetse kenshi bituma umugabo n'umugore babana neza. Byerekana nibura ko umugore yishimiye urukundo muri uwo munezero. Byerekana kandi ko yumva icyo mugenzi amukeneyeho kandi ko yitwararitse kurangiza uruhare ashinzwe: gutera umugabo inkunga, akamuha umwanya n'uburyo bwo kugaragaza ubugabo bwe. Koko rero umugabo akunda ikintu cyose kimutera ishema n'ubwishongore. Biba bibi gusa iyo abonye ko rwose umugore atamwishimiye ahubwo ko amuryarya. 

Abahanga kandi bavuga ko umugore adakeneye kurangiza, aribyo kugera ku byishimo by'indunduro kugirango asame kandi abyare. Ibyo birajyana nuko abagore benshi batazi kurangiza cyangwa ibyishimo by'indunduro icyo ari cyo,uretse ko bagenekereza bakurikije ibyo bumvana abandi mu biganiro cyangwa bahereye ku bwumvumve biyumvira ubwabo: ibyo gusa!

Ingaruka zo kutagera ku byishimo birunduye ku mugore

Na none akamenyero ko kudashyikira ibyishimo by'indunduro buri gihe gashobora kumugirira nabi. Iyo umugabo amwegereye arashyuha, umubiri we wose ukikanga ukanguwe n'urugwiro n'ibineza neza amufitiye; icyo gihe umugabo yagomye kumushimisha ku buryo ibyishimo bye bigera ku ndunduro, akarangiza. Kuko iyo bitagenze gutyo biba bibi: buri gihe uko batangiye uwo muhango w'urukundo, ibyishimo biramusaga, ubwenge bwe bwose bugakanguka,ibinezaneza bikaba byinshi kuko aba yizeye kugeza ibyishimo ku ndunduro. Iyo abibuze ya mizero arapfapfana akababara, umubiri ugasuhererwa, umutima ugaserebera, akumva yinjiriwe. Ubwo mu mutima hakavuka igihu cy'ibitekerezo bibi, bimwoshya kuzinuka uwo mugabo udashoboye kumushimisha ngo amugeze ku munezero yari amwizeyeho. Ikindi umugore ntashobora kwifuturira impamvu y'ibyo bitekerezo bimwangisha umugabo .

Gupfukiranwa mu mishyikirano nk'iyo bitera inkeke, bigira n'izindi ngaruka mu mibereho ye no ku giti cye, bikamugaragaraho mu buryo bwinshi.

Inkurikizi z'izo ngaruka

Abaganga n'abacamanza bavuga ko bumva menshi mu makimbirane n'imanza z'abashakanye kandi atagirana isano n'I;pa;vu nyakuri ituma batumvikana ari yo: imishiyikirano yabo. 

Umugore agera mu Rukiko akarega umugabo we kuba indangare, injiji, kugira imico mibi, akamurega ubusinzi, ubugugu cyangwa gutagaguza. Akomeza avuga ko ntacyo yitaho cyo mu rugo,ko nawe ubwe atamwitaho (nyamara ntanasobanure n'impamvu n'aho bipfira). Akavuga ko yibera mu gakungu k'abamushuka, ageraho akamurega ko anywera itabi mu buriri, cyangwa ko ari igisambo, amaurga ko agera mu kiryamo agasoma ibinyamakuru, ko afungura radio ikamumena amatwi, akavuga ko ahora ajya gutera cyangwa kogeza umuira, ko atajya arya ibyo yatetse, ngo ntakunda abana,ngo yanga abaturanyi, ngo ntasura incuti,…. Yewe! Ari iby'umugabo avuga aribyo akora byose bimutera umwaga, rimwe na rimwe agakeka ko umugabo abikora nkana ngo amuhime,! Abo hirya bo bamwita ingare, ngo ni ukushizi w'isoni (ntabe akiswe Nyampinga), nyamara baba bata igihe kuko agahinda afite katagira urugero, kandi ntaho kaba gahuriye n'ibyo babona, kaba gashingiye ku bubabare bw'urusobekerane rw'imitsi y'umubiri wose na we ubwe adashobora gusobanura.

Mu mibanira y'abashakanye, amakimbirane ntabura, ariko! Nubwo "incident" yabazamo bakaremana inguma,urukundo rwabo ntiruhumana iyo imishyikirano yabo ishingiye ku bitsina inoze, hari igihe banarakaranya nk'umugabo amennye agacuma kavuye kwa sebukwe cg umugore ashatse korora inkoko hakavamo ko umugore yivumbura agasasa ubwe; nyamara uzi ubwenge yirinda iyo ngeso yo kwivumburira ikiryamo. Kwegerana byonyine bifasha umugore n'umugabo gucubya uburakari bakiyunga( mu buriri). Ikindi iyo basanganywe bene iyo mishyikirano bibagirwa vuba bene utwo tuntu tudashobora gucogoza urukundo n'umunezero basanganywe, kandi ni mu gihe kuko urwo rukundo n'umunezero basanganywe ni byo bibatera inkunga mu minsi mibi, na none utwo tuntu dushobora gusenya urusanzwe rwubatse ku musenyi.

Na none haba igihe umugore ahura n'ingorane zikomeye koko zaba izitewe n'abo bafitanye isano cyangwa se rubanda, maze ari we ari n'umugabo we zikabazahaza. Ubwo urukundo rwabo rushingiye ku bitsina narwo rukahazaharira. Ashobora kurenzaho akagerageza guhisha ububabare n'ubwivumbure afite, ariko ntibibura kumutamaza kandi bikamugaragaraho mu buryo bwinshi. Umugore ubabaye kandi wivumbuye ashobora gushakishiriza amahoro n'amahirwe mu bintu bidafitanye isano n'impamvu nyakuri yatumye yivumbura.

"Ashobora guhinduka umubyeyi ukabya gutetesha abana, agahorana igishyika ntagire amahoro igihe atababona iruhande rwe.Ahangayika ku tuntu twose ndetse n'utudafite umumaro, arararukarara, ugasanga umutima utakimuba mu nda. Byaba ibikomeye, byaba amafuti byose nta kitamukura umutima. Ashobora no guhinduriza imico, buri kantu kose akakanegura, ndetse akirata ntagire icyo ashima n'uwo ashima".

Akurizamo indwara

Hari n'ugerageza kurwanya ubwo burakari n'umwaga bimwaritsemo, akarya, akanywa noneho agakurizamo ubusambo no kubyibuha bikabije. Hari n'urwara indwara nyazo; agacika integer akabura ibitotsi, agaheta intugu, agasaza imburagihe! Hari urwara umutwe udakira, kugundirwa mu nda, cyangwa kugira amazi-nda. Yewe hari n'abarwara ibikanu, n'izindi ndwara zisesa ku mubiri (umubiri we uba wagize ubwivumbure) ndetse akenshi usanga bene abo bagore barwara cyane za rubagimpande, indwara z'ibifu, ibibyimba mu nda n'ibindi, kandi inkomoko yabyo ikaba mu rusobekerane rw'imitsi y'umubiri wose!

Nkuko abahanga mu miterere y'umubiri babivumbuye, umubiri ugizwe n'udutsi twinshi tutabarika, kandi buri gatsi kakagira umurimo wakagenewe. Iyo utwo dutsi dukora ubutitsa biba bibi. Nk'iyp umuntu arakaye, kabone n'iyo yarenzaho ntabigaragaze, hari udutsi twabigenewe dukangarana tukivumbagatanya kuko ari cyo dushinzwe. Iyo rero dukora ubutitsa tugeraho tukaruha tugatangira kononekara, noneho indwara z'amoko yose zikuririraho!

"Ni byiza kandi ni na ngombwa ko abagore bamenya imiterere y'umubiri, ibyo ukunda ibyo wanga, ingorane n'inkurikizi bikurikiraho, kuko akenshi mu muryango usanga ari we ibi byose byasobanuwe haruguru bigeraho cyane kabona nubwo umugabo we na we yaba yasogongeyeho kuri ibyo bizazane!"

Ku ruhande rw'umugabo na we agerwaho n'ingaruka

Si umugore gusa, iyo umugabo nawe adashyikira umunezero agamije arababara, ndetse akiheba. Arivumbura akabigaragaza ku buryo bwe bwa kigabo nyine. Ahindura imico akajya arakazwa n'ubusa, akantu kose kakamutera inabi, agasharira, akarushya (nk'ahazamuka), akitotomba ngo iwe nta gitungana! Ndetse yaba n'umwana we, bagenzi be, bose abona bamufudikira, akantu kose kabaye nubwo kaba koroheje abona ari ishyano riguye.Aratangira akanywa akarenza urugero rwe ndetse yabishobora ntatahe akajya arara iyo. Hari n'ugaragaza umubabaro we mu kazi, ndetse hakaba nubwo akabije bikamugwa nabi. Iyo izo mbaraga atazimariye ku murimo asanganywe azishora mu mushinga ukomeye cyangwa se agacudika n'undi /abandi bagore.

Akurizamo indwara

Igiteye impungenge kinababaje ni uko ashobora gufatwa gufatwa mu mitsi igenga ubugabo bwe bigatuma aba ikiremba. Na none , umugabo ntabura uburyo ahisha agahinda n'umubabaro afite, ariko uko byagenda kose, umutima we ntubura gushenguka. Bose n'umugore bakahashengukira kuko bombi ari uruti rumwe.

Inama /Impanuro

-Kugirango umugore avumbure ikibangamiye umunezero w'umutima we agomba kwimenya, akamenya umugabo we cyane cyane akamenya inzira akwiriye kunyuramo kugirango agere kuri uwo munezero. 

Ø Agomba no kumenya imico ya bombi mu byerekeye imishyikirano ishingiye ku

bitsina. Igihe ahuye n'ingorane ashobora gushakishiriza impamvu mu burere bwabo. Nubwo bitoroshye bwose, hari ibice bike umuntu ashobora guheraho akisuzumira ibyo ashoboye: 

-"Mu mavuko umuhungu n'umukobwa babeshwaho na nyina ubabyara kurusha se kuko nyina ari we uha uruhinja ibere, akarwuhagira, akarwitaho, akarurera rugakura, bituma rero umwana akunda nyina cyane ".

-Na none iyo umuhungu akomeje gukunda nyina akarinda aba ingaragu, urwo rukundo ni narwo akunda umugore we iyo amaze gushaka. 

-Abahanga bagaragaje ko mu busanzwe umukobwa abyiruka akunda is cyane akazaboneraho gukunda umugabo we. Hari igihe ise w'umukobwa atamwitaho mu irera rye kubera umwanya muke cyangwa se uburangare, ntashishikazwe no kumwereka urukundo n'impuhwe amufitiye nkuko umwana abyifuza, Ibyo rero bituma akari kera iyo umukobwa ashyingiwe, adashira amakenga ngo yizere koko urukundo rw'umugabo we. Nkuko kwigarurira urukundo rwa se byamushobeye akiri muto, ni nako ajijwa ntamenye uburyo abyifatamo ngo akundwe n'umugabo. Ntamenya icyo agomba gushyira imbere ngo akitwararike kugirango anononsore umurimo mu mibanire n'umugabo we. 

Ø Haba iyo umugore yisuzumye akamenya imbogamizi zimuzitiye kandi

akagerageza kuzirwanya, Niba umugore adashoboye kwifuturira impamvu zimubuza kugera ku munezero, ashobora kubiganirira muganga cyangwa undi muntu yizeyeho ubushobozi n'ubwitonzi.

Na none hari igihe umwana w'umukobwa aba yarateteshejwe na se bigakabya, mbese yishyira akizana , 

Ø mu ishyingirwa rye aba azi neza ko umugabo azamuha ukwezi n'ijuru!,

kugirango abashe kuvumbura ako kantu k'umuteto akarwanye bisaba ko aba ari

umunyabwenge kandi azi gusesengura ibintu n'ibindi!

-Akenshi umugore ababazwa kandi agira agahinda aterwa nuko abona ntacyo bimumariye guhora yihatira kubana neza n'umugabo we, akabona ari we wenyine wigomwa, wihangana, witota, wibabaza, akabona ari we wenyine uhagatwa ashaka umunezero wa bombi kandi umugabo yigaramiye, adashaka kubyivangamo ngo keretse gukora akazi ke nta kindi,

Ø Iyo yitonze akamwiga akanaperereza, akamenya ko akiri muto nyina atabashije 

kumwitaho ngo amwerek urukundo n'urugwiro nyina amufitiye nkuko umwana abikenera, kuko nibyo bituma iyo amaze gushaka yishisha umugore we ntamwizere rwose byo kumugaragariza urukundo amufitiye, ngo ejo atavaho amutamaza akamumerera nka nyina.

ü Urukundo, ubugwaneza, n'urugwiro umugore ahorana, nubwo yibwira ko bipfa 

ubusa kuko nta nyishyu yabyo abona, ni byo bihindura umugabo bigatuma ashira amakenga, agashyira umutima hamwe akagwa neza, akizera umugore we kandi akamukunda. Kuko umunezero umugore aharanira uzabashimisha bombi ku buryo buhebuje!

ü Umugore wese aberwa no kugira umutima woroshye, ugira ibambe n'ubwuzu, 

agomba kuba intwari cyane, akaba kandi intarambirwa ngo ejo atiheba naramuka ahuye n'ingorane nkizo cyangwa n'izindi zose z'urugo, akamenya n'ibindi ibishobora gutokoza urukundo cyangwa umubano wabo basanganywe, kugirango ashishakazwe no kubana n'umugabo we mu munezero, urtse ko hari ibyo atakwifuturira byasobanurwa n'abahanga mu miterere y'umubiri, ariko ibigaragarira buri wese akwiye kubimenya!

Kimwe muri ibyo bintu kandi gikomeye ni igipimo cy'urukundo buri muntu akeneye: buri wese afite mugerwa ihuje na kamere ye,

ü Umugore ushaka kurwubaka mu munezero n'ubudahemuka akwiriye kugena

igipimo cy'urukundo rwe ahereye ku cy'umugabo we, akaba ari cyo kimubera mugerwa, kuko abahanga bagaragaje ko ibitekerezo n'ubwugugu byerekeye ibitsina bitamuhora mu nda, ahubwo abiterwa n'umugabo we. 

ü Ntagomba gukurikiza ibitekerezo yiyumvamo cyangwa se yumvana abandi bagore.

ü Ntagomba kwishuka ngo ararikire ibyo yigeze gukora cyangwa kubona(mu

gihe atabigaragarije umugabo we ngo batangirane ikivi kuri icyo gikorwa 

gishyashya amwunguye).

ü Agomba kwifatanya na we kugirango ibyo bashoboye bibe byiza kurushaho.

v Iyo abashakanye babishyizeho ubwitonzi, uko iminsi ihita niko

imishyikirano yabo igenda irushaho kubabera UBUKI kandi buri wese akayinezererwamo bitagira urugero.

ü Amagara mazima nayo ni ngombwa kugirango abashakanye banoze

ubwumvikane bwabo, bahuze urugwiro bityo igikorwa cy'imishyikirano ishingiye ku bitsina kigende neza ntawe uhavunikiye, ndetse ahora yitwararitse uko we, abana n'umugabo we bakora kandi bakaruhuka.

Ø Umugore ugeze mu rwe ashimishwa no guteka neza kuko aba akunze

umugabo we kandi ashaka kumushimisha, kugirango amwereke ubuhanga bwe ateka byinshi binyuranye, maze bakabirya batabibariye, 

ü Nyamara umugore ugamije kubaka aragereranya kugirango ibyishimo by'inda bitaganza umunezero wo gushyikirana no gushimisha imitima kandi Imana yarabitugabiye.

Ø Umugabo ugaburiwe cyane birenze arabyibuha ntiyongere gushabuka nka 

mbere, umwete yahoranaga mu mishyikirano y'urukundo uragabanuka, rimwe na rimwe umugore akibwira ko atakimukunda, akamukeka amababa ngo ahari yaba yigira mu bandi bagore, cyangwa akibwira ko ibyabanje byari agahararo, ahubwo ikintu cyose kigira urugero rwacyo.

ü Amajyambere mu by'imirire no guteka yarasakaye, umugore ashobora

kwigishwa uko ategura amafunguro mu rwego rwo gutunga urugo rwe (akenshi

ntibinahenze) atibagiwe n'umunezero w'umugabo n'uwe bwite, ihame ridakuka ni

uko buri wese akeneye gukunda no gukundwa kandi biruzuzanya.

Ø Abagore benshi bagira ingorane zituruka kuri kamere yabo zikababuza guhimbaza 

umurimo wabo mu mishyikirano ishingiye ku bitsina. Igisa n'icyo ni kigatsindwe! kiba kigamije kumusenyera,

Ø Guhindura imico no kugira umwaga bya buri kwezi ubwabyo bishobora 

gusembura umugabo uwo ari we wese nubwo yaba tauza nk'intama, ararambirwa akivumbura, akarakara, noneho nawe agakurizamo guhindura imico,

Ø Habaho umugore uhorana umucyo azi no guterurana ikivi n'umugabo we, 

nyamara ukwezi kwe kwaba kwegereje agatangira kwijima, akagira agahinda kagaragara, akantu kose kakamutesha umutwe, agakangarana, ndetse ugasanga yashinze iryinyo ku rindi, cyangwa agasa n'indangare akagira amazinda bikabije, agira Impinduka ku bintu byinshi bitarondowe hano…agarura moral iyo imihango ngaruka kwezi ibonetse, akagarura ubugwaneza n'urugwiro asanganywe.

ü Buri mugore akwiye kumenya kubibaho kandi nta wubihuza n'undi akisuzuma 

abyitayeho kugirango niba bimubaho agerageze kwiramira no kwiyumanganya muri iyo minsi, birasaba n'umugabo we kubimufashamo aho bidashobotse akamwihanganira bakabiganiraho babyunguranaho inama ku cyakorwa.

ü Birakwiye ku mugore wese kwitwararika isuku muri byose , ariko cyane cyane 

imyanya ndangagitsina, kugirango yitegure imibonano mpuzabitsina nta yindi mpumuro yumvikanamo atari iy'igituba: birababaza kuba ibyavuwze haruguruubyujujwe ariko ibyishimo n'umunezero ukabibuzwa n'isuku udakorera umubiri wawe!

UMWANZURO: Ndibwira ko nubwo ari byinshi ariko bivunaguye ntawe byarambira gusobanukirwa cyane agamije kugira ibyishimo n'umunezero" birambye" nacyane ko ntawanze kubigira, nibanze cyane ku bagore nuko ari bo mutima w'urugo, kandi ngo umukurusha aba akurusha urugo, muri rusange byari intangiriro kugirango ubutumwa buzakurikiraho bujye busanga amayira yaraharuwe.

Ndashishikaza ba Nyampinga kutitinya bagatanga ibitekerezo byabo kugirango bishyirwe ahagaragara bigirire bose akamaro (Umwambaro w'abakobwa-gukuna; uko wakwifata mu gihe uwagushimye asanze utanyara; ….) dore ko hari uba akeneye kugira icyo ahinduraho akenshi akahakura ubugororangingo!

Murakoze!

Ni La toute 

Umukunzi n'inshuti ya Blog igituba!

Biracyaza….

Monday, December 15, 2008

Ndagukunda mu Ndimi Zinyuranye

Reba andi mafoto y'ibituba no guswera bishyushye hano
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Video zo Guswera Zitandukanye

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Video zo Guswerana z'Abagande

Video zo Guswera z'Abahinde

Video za Rugongo nini

Video z'Abakobwa Barimo Kwikinisha
Afrikaans - Ek is lief vir jou

Albanian - te dua

Arabic - Ana Ahebak / Ana Bahibak

Armenian - yes kez shat em siroom

Assyr- Az tha hijthmekem

Alentejano(Portugal) - Gosto De Ti, Porra!

Bahasa Malayu - (Malaysia) Saya cinta mu

Basque - Maite Zaitut

Bengali - Ami Tomake Bahlobashi

Bavarian - I mog di

Bisaya - Nahigugma ko nimo

Bosnian - Ja te volim (formally) or volim-te

Bulgarian - Obicham te

Bulgarian - Obicham te

Burmese- chit pa de

Cantonese - Ngo Oi Nei

Chinese - gnoy oy na
Goi Oi Lei (Hongkong)
Wa Ai Li (Taiwan)

Cambodian - Bon sro lanh oon

Catalan - T'estim (mallorcan)

Croatian - LJUBim te

Czech - miluji te

Danish- Jeg elsker dig

Dutch - Ik hou van jou

English - I love you

Esperanto - Mi amas vim

Estonian - Ma armastan sind / Mina armastan sind (formal)

Farsi - Tora dust midaram

Filipino - Mahal ka ta

Finnish - Minä rakastan sinua

French - Je t'aime

Gaelic - Tá mé i ngrá leat

German - Ich liebe Dich

Greek - S'agapw

Greenlandic - Asavakit

Gujrati - Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon

Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia 'oe

Hebrew - Ani ohevet ota

Hindi - Main tumsey pyaar karta hoon / Maine Pyar Kiya

Hmong - Kuv Hlub Koj

Hungarian - Szeretlek

Hokkien - Wa ai lu

Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta

Icelandic - Eg elska thig

Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu

Italian - ti amo

Indian - Mai tumase pyar karata hun (male to female) Mai tumase pyar karati hun (female to male)

Irish - taim i' ngra leat

Japanese - Aishiteru

Javanese - Kulo tresno marang panjenengan (formal)
aku terno kowe (informal)

Kapangpangan - Kaluguran daka.

Kinyarwanda- Ndagukunda

Kirundi-Ndagukunda

Korean - SA LANG HAE / Na No Sa Lan Hei

Kurdish - Khoshtm Auyt

Laos - Chanrackkun

Latin - Ego te amo

Latvian - Es mîlu Tevi

Lithuanian - As Myliu Tave

Lebanese - Bahibak

Lingala - Nalingi yo

Lojban - mi do prami

Luo - Aheri

Macedonian - Te sakam

Mandarin - Wo Ai Ni

Malteese - Inhobbok hafna

Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Saya cinta mu

Norwegian - Jeg elsker deg

Persian - Tora Doost Darem

Pig Latin - I-yea Ove-lea Ou-yea

Polish - Kocham Cie

Portuguese - Eu te amo (Brazilian)
Eu amo-te (continental)

Punjabi - me tumse pyar ker ta hu'

Romanian - Te iubesc

Russian - Ya tebya liubliu

Serbo-Croatian - Volim te

Xangana- Nakurandza

Sign language -
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Slovenian - ljubim te

Swedish - Jag älskar dig

Swiss German - Ch-ha di gärn

Spanish - Te quiero / te amo / yo amor tu

Swahili - Nakupenda

Tagalog - Mahal Kita / Iniibig kita

Tamil - Naan Unnai Khadalikkeren

Telugu - Nenu Ninnu Premisthunnanu

Thai - Khao Raak Thoe / chun raak ter

Turkish - seni seviyorum

Ukranian - Yalleh blutebeh / ya tebe kohayu

Urdu - Mea tum se pyaar karta hu ( when a guy says it)
Mea tum se pyar karti hu (when a gal says it)

Vietnamese - Toi yeu em

Vulcan - Wani ra yana ro aisha

Yugoslavian - Ya te volim

Zazi - Ezhele hezdege

Zulu - Mena Tanda Wen

Saturday, December 13, 2008

IBIBAZO-UMUBYEYI UTABAZA

Thursday, December 11, 2008

UMWAMBARO W’ABAKOBWA

par Latoute

Iyi nkuru ni iya Latoute, umwanditsi n'umushakashatsi kuri blog Igituba. Iyi nyandiko ya Latoute irashimishije cyane kandi irushijeho gusobanura neza ibyo gukuna kuko yanditswe n'umugore uvuga ibyo azi, yakoze kandi abamo mu buzima bwa buri munsi. Latoute yatubereye umugisha kuri blog Igituba. Ntagira isoni zo gusobanurira abandi bagore uburyo bwo gushimishwa n'igitsina ndetse n'imibereyeho yabo muri rusange. Ushobora kumwandikira kuri latoute@igituba.org

Ikintu cyose kirimbishijwe kigaragara neza ko gifite ubwiza, niyo mpamvu umukobwa agomba gutegura ejo hazaza. Ibyo bigaragarira mu isuku iranga aho aba, uko ari, n’uko ateye.

Isuku mu rugo: Ni ngombwa ko tugira amagara mazima niba dushaka ubuzima burambye: ibyo ni ihame. Ingo nyinshi zisenyuka kubera ko n’umugore aba yagaragaje intege nke mu kugira isuku. Iyo byatangiye gucumbagira hirya iyo mu cyumba, akenshi umugore acika intege n’ibyo yakoraga ugasanga atangiye kubiha agaciro gacye cyangwa se ka ntako. Ibijyanye n’iki gice bidatinzweho, umukobwa cyangwa umugore azi inshingano ze kugira ngo urugo rwe rugere ahashimisha buri wese kuburyo bw’intangarugero.

Isuku ku mubiri: umubiri w’umuntu ukenera isuku ya ngombwa kugirango biwufashe byaba kuwambika, gukaraba, kwiyuhagira, n’ibindi. Mu gihe cyo gukaraba ni ngombwa kwita no gutinda cyane ahashobora kubangamira abandi mu gihe hatasukuwe neza: amenyo, mu maha, igitsina….

Isuku y’igitsina: iyi suku irakenewe kuko ni intangiriro yo kugira umunezero mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina, ntacyo byaba bimaze urya neza, ukaryama aheza, ukambara ukaberwa ariko watambuka ukagira ngo haboreye imbeba! Hari amasabune yifashishwa ushobora no kubaza farmacien, atangiza mu gitsina, mu gihe ukaraba rero ni ngombwa kuhatinda ukahasukura kugirango wikorere isuku kandi witegure na we ubwawe mu kwakira imibonano mpuzabitsina (ku bashakanye), kuko umurimo uhakorerwa ni ingenzi mu kubaka ingo zigakomera, ntabwo ugomba gupfobywa cyangwa ngo usuzugurwe !

Gukuna: Ni umuhango wa gikobwa ugamije kumutegura kuba umugore ubereye umugabo, hari n’ababishyira mu rwenya ngo :”nyiranaka yaryoshya inzoga”, utangira umukobwa ari umwangavu w’imyaka 13-18 kuko umubiri uba utarakomera atarajya mu mihango ya gikobwa. Ariko! Uko amajyambere yihutana n’imirire myiza usanga hari abana bajya mu mihango bafite imyaka 9-10, byaba byiza ba nyina wabo na ba nyirasenge, bakuru babo ndetse na (ba nyina); mvuze ndetse naba nyina kuko imiryango myinshi usanga ba nyina b’abakobwa batinya kubibaganiriza , bagahitamo kubateza abo bavuzwe hejuru, ubwo uwo bishobokeye nyine na nyina yabimuganiriza!

Mu gihe cyo ha mbere uwo muhango wakundaga kubera mu gasozi nko mu gashyamba abakobwa bitwaje kujya guca imyeyo” nkeka ko ari naho havuye iyo mvugo”, ko uwakunnye byitwa ko yaciye imyeyo, bakitwaza kujya guca ubwatsi, gutashya inkwi, kujya mu rubohero, n’ibindi….

Amajyambere arihuta cyane ku buryo bitakiri ngombwa kwikora muri équipe ngo mugiye guca imyeyo; na cyane ko hateye iya ruzungu, ngo ugiye gutashya, kandi mukoresha cuisinnière, upfa kuba ufite ibikunisho byawe, wanabikorera mu rugo mu cyumba uraramo cyangwa n’ahandi uba warateguriye icyo gikorwa.

Ni umuhango ugomba kubahwa ukanubahirizwa; si byiza ko buri wese amenya icyo uhugiyeho, icya ngombwa ni uko uba witegurira ibyishimo n’umunezero birambye.

Ibikunisho:

intobo z’ibitoborwa
amavuta y’inka (niyo yaba adakuze)
akatsi bita gutwi kumwe
agati bita umukonora (utubabi twako),…..

Uko bikoreshwa: ufata intobo z’ibitoborwa ukazotsa (uzivumbika mu gicaniro), zamara gushya ugakuramo ubuhwa bwazo ukavanga n’amavuta y’inka mu kantu gafite isuku (niyo wakwifashisha icupa ryashizemo amavuta ya gikotori)

Ushobora no gukoresha kimwe muri biriya byatsi bivanze n’amavuta y’inka!

Mu gihe ibyo byatsi cyangwa ibimera bitabashije kuboneka ukoresha amavuta y’inka akuze ukayakoresha mu gitondo kare na nimugoroba abandi bashyizweyo! Ni ngombwa gukorera icyo gice isuku kugirango hatagira indi mpumuro yumvikana mu gihe hari uwo utambutseho!

Uko bakuna: wicaza ikibuno hasi, ugashinga ibirenge ku buryo amavi ashobora kugera ku ntugu zombi, ukanyuza amaboko munsi y’ibibero ufite rwa ruvange rw’ibyo ukunisha cyangwa se amavuta y’inka akuze (iyo ari intangiriro), ukuboko kumwe gukurura umushino biteganye kaba kakiri gato kakagenda gakura uko uhataho ukuna, ukururira rimwe ujyana hasi, mu ntangiriro birababaza ndetse rimwe na rimwe ukumva wabireka, ari nayo mpamvu abakobwa bakunira hamwe barenze umwe kugirango batizanye umurindi. Iyo umaze kugira umushino ufatika, Ugeraho ugakuna utazura umushino mu bugari bwawo kugirango biwuhe forme yo kuba mugari, kugeza ugwije” imyugariro”.

Mu gihe bakuna ari benshi buri wese aba afite ibikunisho bye, cyaraziraga guha undi ku bikunisho wizaniye ngo aba agutwaye imishino ndetse akagutanga no kugwiza bikakuzinga. Cyokora ariko mwashoboraga gufashanya babiri babiri umwe agakuna mugenzi we ku mpungenge zo gutinya kwibabaza!

Igipimo cy’umushino

Iyo ukurura ucunganwa no kutarenza urugingo rwa kabiri rwa musumbazose cm 6-7, hari n’abanezezwa no gukuna akarurenza ariko byitwa “gukuna ibiziriko” cyangwa se “imijabamabyi”, ndetse ngo uwakunnye ibiziriko agira umushyukwe cyane ndetse akifuza vuba igitsina mu gihe ari mu minsi y’uburumbuke, gusa hakabaho kwifata kugirango atiyangiriza ubukobwa bwe.

Uwagwije rero ntaba agihangayikishijwe n’ibikoresho, amavuta y’inka gusa arahagije cyane cyane avuye mu mihango kuko umubiri uba waregeranye, akora ibyo bita “kunanura”. Umukobwa cyangwa umugore wakunnye bimutera ishema n’isheja agahora iteka yiteguye kunezeza umugabo mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Bidasobanuye ko utarakunnye bamusenda, bafatanya kurwubaka kandi ntibibabuza kunezererwa icyo gikorwa, akarusho gusa ni uko umugore wakunnye areta vuba kandi akihuta mu kunyara no mu gusohora, bigatuma ndetse bigafasha umugabo we akumva ko atarimo kuruhira ubusa, biramunezeza cyane iyo baharuranye ikivi batangiranye!

Ingaruka zo kudakuna: Aho umukobwa abimenyeye ko hari igikorwa cyamwihishe cyangwa atamenye, bimutera ipfunwe ndetse bikamubabaza cyane, akumva ahari wenda ntacyo bimaze gushaka niba atarakunnye, kuko abandi akenshi bamuca intege bamubwira ko bazamusenda, ngo bazamukubita intosho ishyushye mu maguru, ngo nyirabukwe azarahiramo ivu, n’ibindi by’urucantege, ariko binagaragara ko cyera byakorwaga. Ahora asuherewe rimwe uwo mutwaro akawugereka kuri nyina cyangwa bakuru be bakabaye barabimuganirije, yaba ntabo afite akibaza ati nibe n’abafite ababibakorera (yumvikanisha ko kubura nyina yahombye byinshi; kandi koko), atangira kugerageza bitagishobotse (ngo nyiranaka yibutse ikuna mu irongorwa); nuko aba abikoze mu gihe kitari icyabyo:yakabaye yaragwije ananura,….

Inkurikizi

Umukobwa utarakunnye iyo ashatse umugabo wabimenyeho akanabiganirizwa agasanga umufasha we atagira ashwi, urukundo, ubwuzu n’urugwiro yari amufitiye bitangira kugabanuka, rimwe na rimwe akabimucyurira, icyo gihe bisaba kwihangana no kubiganiraho kugirango yumve ko “urugo rutubakwa n’imishino, uretse ko ngo na none urwayirozwe, umwana warwo avukana itanu”.

Bihumira ku mirari iyo umugabo asanze umugore we atanyara, hari abihangana ntibinamenyekane ariko hari n’undi wumva ko atashatse: twibuke ibituma ingo nyinshi zishobora gusenyuka ko n’ibi birimo, nyamara na none ibyo si intandaro yo gutana kuko muba mwarasezeranye kubana akaramata;

uko wakwifata mu gihe uwo washimye usanze atanyara

Mwihanganishe wowe mugabo umukorere ibindi bituma munezerwa niba ibyo kunyarirwa mutabikozwa, wimugaya, kuko siwe wabyiteye! Bimwubahire yumve na we akunzwe kandi yizihiye urugo muri rusange, n’umugabo we by’umwihariko.

Azakubera nyina w’abana mutarutwa wizihiye urugo mufatanyije gucunga!!!!

Azagukunda agukundwakaze, akubahire icyo wamwubahiye,

Azagutura ibihozo uhore umushaka, aho uri umwenyure uti ngwino simbi ryandutiye bose!!!

Akitonderwa: Iyi nyandiko yatinze kugera k’urubuga rw’ubwisanzuriro igituba.org), bidatewe no kurangara cyangwa no kuyitinza ku bushake ahubwo bitewe no kuyifatanya n’akandi kazi mba nshinzwe mu mibereho ya buri munsi, uko umwanya ubonetse, hagategurwa bicye bicye….

Nsanga na none dukwiye gufashanya kugirango bigirire abandi akamaro ku babyifuza, nongera gusaba ba Nyampinga kudufasha kugirango tubafashe; batugezaho inama n’ibitekerezo dore ko bakiri umubare mucye ushobora kwisanzura ku gituba.org,, mushobora no kohereza ubutumwa bwanyu kwa Tantine latoute@igituba.org musanze hari ahakenewe ubugororangingo..

Murakoze kubyakira neza… kandi Karibu murisanga…

B i r a c y a z a . . .

Monday, December 8, 2008

Uturango tw'Ubwiza bw'Umugore

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Video z'Abakobwa Barimo Kwikinisha
par Bangambiki

Biragoye gusobanura ubwiza. Kuko biterwa n'amaso n'umutima by'ureba. Uwo ubona ko ari mwiza nshobora kubona atanshimishije ariko muri rusange icyiza kiba kigaragara kandi abantu benshi bakacyumvikanaho ko ari cyiza. Ubwiza bukunze kuvugwa ku bagore cyane kuko ari zo mbaraga zabo.

IJWI:

"Imvugo ye ni umurebe w’impundu"-Rugamba

"Ni impundu z’umurangi
Zikiranya n’insengo
Zasobetse n’urugunda."-Rugamba

Ijwi ni akarango k'ubwiza k'umugore. Umugore ufite akajwi keza k'abagore gasobanutse kamwongerera gukundwa kurusha ufite ijwi nk'iry'abagabo.

AMABERE

"Naho igituza cy’umutabonda
Kirimo urwogere rw’imitari."-Rugamba

"Kandi amabere ni amahembe"-bangambiki

Ibice by'umubiri w'umugore byo konsa umwana bikaba n' akarango k'ubwiza.

IJOSI

"Naho ubwo rya josi ry' umutarati,
Uko yariteretse ngo andangamire,
Agasa na ya nkuba ya Rusine
Ikoreye ishaka kuvuna sambwe."-Rugamba

UMUSATSI:

-"Reba umusatsi ni umusana"- Bangambiki

"Umusatsi uyumbuje nk' umusereko
Uva mu ruhanga uhunda ibitugu"-Rugamba

"Umusatsi wose ni umusana,
Ni urugege ruzira ingingo
Ni urugeregere rw’uburanga,
Ni igisingizo cy’umudasumbwa."-Rugamba

Umusatsi mwinshi muremure ni ishema ry'abagore n'abakobwa. Naho umusatsi mubi w'injwiri ni igisebo gikomeye.

AMARIBORI:

"Inyange yariboye umusubizo
Mu rukenyero imbibi ziraka
Kandi ingondo zimugonyeye ho
Zamurangije mu ngingo"

Ni utuntu tumeze nk'ubusharure dukunze kuboneka mu ntege, ku nda,ibibero by'umukobwa cyangwa umugore. Ni akarango k'ubwiza,abagore barabikunda n'abagabo bakabishima.

INTEGE

Ni akarango k'ubwiza k'umugore. Abagore benshi bakunze kuzerekana. Kandi abafite intege nziza barabigendera. Mu ntege banahita "mu bikari"

UMUKONDO

Inkovu y'aho umwana aba afataniye na nyina akiri mu nda. Iyo hatakebwe neza inkovu ntimera neza ahubwo haza iromba.

Gukora ku mukondo:Guhuza igitsina
Urugero:Ndifuza kugukora ku mukondo.
Umukondo ni akarango k'ubwiza bw'abagore. Abagore cyangwa abakobwa biyubashye bakunze guhisha umukondo wabo mu gihe abakunda kurata ubwiza bwabo bawushyira ahagaragara. Mu guhuza igitsina umukondo ufite akamaro cyane kuko ari ipfundo ry'imyakura ngengagitsina. Gukorakora umugore ku mukondo bituma yumva uburyohe bwinshi.

AMASO

"Reba amaso ni inyenyeri"-Bangambiki

"Nsanga amaso ateretse inkesha,
Akina ibinyonga by' urunyenyeri."-Rugamba

"Amaso ni urubera rw’inkesha,
Kandi yuzuyemo ibinyonga
Akarusha ay’inyana urunyenyeri."-Rugamba

Gutereka Amaso:uburyo abakobwa n'abagore barebamo bareshya abagabo.

URUHANGA

"Agira uruhanga rw’uruhebuza,
Nturuhanga ngo urushye uhumbya
N’iyo uhungiwe n’amahindu
Ahubwo uremera akaguhonda."-Rugamba

INGOHE

"Ingohe ze ni irangamutuzo,
Ni uruterero rw’abatoya."-Rugamba

IZURU

"Izuru ni imbuga y’urutonde,"-Rugamba

AMATAMA

"Amatama yose itoto riragwa."-Rugamba

IMISAYA

"Naho urusizi rw’umususuruko
Rusesuye imisaya yose."-Rugamba

AMENYO

"Amenyo ni inono izira inenge
Ni amasimbi y’urubugurizo"-Rugamba

INDORO

"Indoro ye ni uruhogozambyeyi,"-Rugamba

INGENDO

"Ingendo ni urugororangingo,"-Rugamba

INDESHYO

"Indeshyo ni ijuru ry’umurere,"-Rugamba

UMUBIRI

"Umubiri wose ni ndebunyurwe."-Rugamba

AMABOKO

"Amaboko yose ni imibanga
Agira ibizigira by’ubukombe,"-Rugamba

URUTOKI

"Urutoki rwose ni urutunda"-Rugamba

IMBAVU

"Imbavu ze ni imbandagihumbi,
Ni imitende itatse indinda."-Rugamba

INDA

"Mu nda ni urutembanshyushyu
Ni umurere warezwe n’inka
Hose yitwa umwogabyano."-Rugamba

INSEKO

"Inseko ikeye umusanganya
Ubonye ukwezi kubanduye."-Rugamba

"Inseko yawe ni umuseso"-Rugamba

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Sunday, December 7, 2008

UBURYO BUNYURANYE BWO GUHUZA IGITSINA N'INTUMBI

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UBURYO BUNYURANYE BWO GUHUZA IGITSINA N'INTUMBI
par Bangambiki

Nigeze kwandika muri iyi nkuru ku byerekeranye no guswera intumbi, muri iyi nyandiko ndakomeza gusobanura uburyo bunyuranye abaswera intumbi n'abifuza guhuza igitsina n'intumbi babikoramo.

Necrophilia ni ijambo risobanura "gukunda intumbi."Abakurikiranira hafi iby'imyitwarire y'abantu bavuga ko abakunda intumbi akenshi babiterwa no gushaka gukunda umuntu utanga urukundo rwabo. Dr Jonathan Rothman na Dr Phillip Resnick bavuga ko hari uburyo butatu abakunda intumbi bigaragazamo:

1.kwica umuntu wifuza kubona intumbi ye

2.gukunda intumbi bisanzwe: gukoresha imibiri y'abapfuye ngo ibashimishe mu rwego rw'igitsina

3.kwifuza intumbi: kwifuza guhuza igitsina n'intumbi, kwikinisha umuntu ayitekerezaho ari ntashyire mu bikorwa ibitekerezo bye.

Aba baganga Rothman na Resnick mu bushakashatsi bakoze mu bantu 122 (hejuru ya 1/2 cyabo ni abakozi bo mu marimbi n'abashinzwe gutunganya imibiri y'abitabye imana)biyemerera ko bakunda intumbi, benshi muri bo bavuga ko bakunda intumbi mu buryo bwa kabiri ni ukuvuga gukunda intumbi bisanzwe: gukoresha imibiri y'abapfuye ngo ibashimishe mu rwego rw'igitsina.

Mu yindi raporo yakozwe na J.Paul de River yatangaje ukuntu umucukuzi w'imva w'umutaliyani yatangiraga kwikinisha iyo yabaga agiye guhamba umukobwa w'inkumi wari mwiza. Kugira ngo arangize vuba, ngo uwo mugabo yakoraga kuri iyo ntumbi. de River avuga ko uwo mugabo iyo yabaga afite umwanya ari wenyine n'iyo ntumbi y'umukobwa yabanzaga kuyenda. Umunsi umwe ngo yafashwe umunwa we uri ku gitsina cy'intumbi y'umugore maze yiyemerera ko yari amaze kubikora ku ntumbi zirenze ijana. De River amaze gusuzuma uwo mugabo yasanze mu by'ukuri arwaye mu mutwe.

De River kandi atanga urugero rw'undi mugabo wakoraga mu buruhukiro wajyaga arambika imboro ye ku bibero by'abagore bapfuye. Ngo yajyaga aswera nibura intumbi 4 cyangwa 5 buri cyumweru. Ngo k'umwangavu umwe yamunyoye amaraso n'inkari kandi yumva ashatse cyane kumurya bigeze aho ngo yamuriye inyama zo ku kibuno arangije amwenda mu kibuno.

Amateka yuzuyemo inkuru ziteye ubwoba nk'izi harimo nuko kera mu Misiri abantu bari bafite ubwoba ko abashinzwe gutunganya imibiri y'abagore babo bitabye imana b ashoboraga kubarongorera abagore bapfuye. Ni yo mpamvu abagabo bagumanaga abagore babo iwabo bakabatanga ngo batunganywe bamaze kubora. Hari umugani uvuga ko umwami Herod yaba yarishe umugore we hanyuma akumugana akajya ahuza igitsina na we imyaka irindwi nyuma yaho.

90% y'abenda intumbi ni abagabo ariko hari n'abagore babikora nk'uyu mugore ngo mu mezi ane ya mbere atangiye akazi kokoza intumbi yahuje igitsina n'intumbi nyinshi. Uwo mudamu yavuze ko atigeze ashimishwa n'abagabo bazima kuko ngo yigezwe gufatwa ku ngufu no kugirirwa ibya mfura mbi. Ngo yashoboraga rero gushimishwa n'intumbi kuko ntacyo zamuvugishaga. Nubwo uyu mugore ngo atigeze yiyinjizamo imboro y'intumbi kuko bitashobokaga ngo hari undi mugore ipombo yinjiraga munsi y'uruhu rw'imboro igahagarara akayikoresha!

IMIBARE Y'ABAHUZA IGITSIANA N'INTUMBI

-Abifuza guhuza igitsina n'intumbi cyangwa bahuza igitsina na zo ni abantu bahuza igitsina n'abandi mu buryo busanzwe. -Abakunze kwica abantu babashakaho igitsina ni abagabo bahuza igitsina n'abandi.
-60% y'abahuza igitsina n'intumbi bafite ibibazo bito mu mutwe naho
-10% bari hafi y'ubusazi.

IMYUGA ABAHUZA IGITSINA N'INTUMBI BAKOMOKAMO AKENSHI NI

-abakozi bo muri morgue
-abambika intumbi
-abavugabutumwa
-abakozi bo mu marimbi
-abasirikare
Ibi ntibivuga ko abakora muri ino mirimo bose babikora ariko abenshi mibabikora baboneka muri iyo myuga.

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